How warm are you, women?
By Tussy Afam-Obi
Tuesday, June 12, 2007

This question goes to my soul sisters. How warm are you?
We all have the power to create homes that our husbands love and want to run to - not away from. It may not be possible to do these things every single day, but if you try, I think you'll find the experience richer for both of you.

It's nearing closing time and your husband should be coming home from work soon. You can't wait to dump your daily news on him, and converse with someone who knows more than two syllables. STOP. Slow down and re-think how you plan to welcome your husband. He may have had a rough day and we shouldn't underestimate the influence our greeting has on him! What we as wives want, is for our husbands to enjoy coming home, being home.
There are some vital things we can do if we really want to be warm to our husbands. We can create an atmosphere in which our beloved spouse will look forward to seeing our faces, and sharing with us at the end of each day.

1. Try to quit projects around the time he will be coming home. This will free you up to greet him at the door with a welcoming hug and kiss. How about that!
2. Clear household clutter as much as possible, and minimize the noise. This will encourage him to sit down with you and talk, instead of trying to yell over the stereo or make his way through all the toys to get to the toilet.

3. Look good. Freshen up your makeup and fix your hair up a little. We may stay home all day, but that doesn't mean we have to look like we just woke up. Show him how proud he can feel to have you for his wife.

4. Try to have a meal cooking. Hey, he's starving and dinner is a great way to allow him to unwind and relax with you.
5. Last, but not least - listen. His job may not excite you, but it's important to him. And if you listen to all the statistics and figures of his day, it will show him you can listen to deeper cares and concerns.