In defence of virginity
test
By Sun News Publishing
Sunday,
April 13, 2008
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The inception of celebration of Nigerian Virgin Girls was
the 20th of October, 2007. I made a call for the Virgin Girls
on the Saturday Sun Newspapers asking them to come forward
en masse for rewards; girls from sixteen years of age and
above. Published alongside was an advert in which my GSM numbers,
e-mail address and other vital information as regards the
concept were boldly written.
The next day brought to my delight numerous congratulatory
messages and some shocking confessions from parents nation-wide
telling me that my concept had suddenly brought them back
from their slumber. "I have forgotten to discuss anything
about virginity with my daughters. Thank you ma, God will
continue to help you". "Madam, if every woman should
emulate you, our daughters will be snatched back from Nigerian
devilish men who have sniffed decency out of their lives.
Congratulations ma". And yet others, I mean innumerable,
also poured out their hearts not leaving behind men who also
e-mailed me assuring me of their solidarity. I know the press
will not be able to use too much of their space for me, hence
I would just not continue to quote all the messages I received.
They were more than five hundred. I had to erase many, to
give space for others to enter. The virgin girls were also
texting me and asking uncountable questions about their virginity
including the so-called
SECONDLY VIRGINITY:
Some made amazing revelations. "Mummy, when I was five
years old, a neighbour inserted his penis in my vagina uncountable
times but I had no pains because he was putting Vaseline.
I also didn’t see blood. But we packed out of the place
later and since then, I have never been abused by another.
Am I still a virgin? I am twenty years of age. Kindly reply
immediately". Let me quote another one not from the numerous
ones they told us on the celebration day, but from one of
the text messages that followed the inception of the programme.
"Mummy, when we were young, my brothers abused me several
times, but most of the times with their fingers because we
were sleeping together. The two of them kissed me in turn.
I didn’t tell our parents because I was enjoying it.
I was seven and they were ten and twelve respectively. But
one day, the eldest one put his penis so hard and for the
first time I felt terrible pain and I shouted. I pushed him
with all my power and my mother heard me shout. She ran to
our room but all of us kept quiet. "Why did you cry?
What is the matter?" she demanded. Later, she shrugged
and said "maybe she had an awful dreams". "The
following night I refused to sleep with them again and since
then, I have never been abused. Mummy, I am Twenty-five years
old. Am I still a virgin? I didn’t see blood on that
day?"
WHAT I REALISED ABOUT THE CONCEPT
The celebration of Nigerian virgin girls is the only concept
that throws light on the chastity of Nigerian girls, without
it, the populace was of the opinion that it is impossible
to find a virgin girl in Nigeria after the age of fifteen
years.
Nobody knew that virgin girls could also be fished out in
Lagos and that attitude had dragged numerous people into the
rural areas for spouses, which many regretted later. I was
amazed at the availability of virgin girls on Lagos Island,
Isale Eko and Okepopo area, although they are few.
I also realised that men world-wide are very much interested
in intact virginity but thinking it is impossible, they had
said ‘to hell’ with the sacred thing. But with
the concept, I started receiving messages from home and abroad
that I should introduce virgin girls to them for permanent
relationship.
The most astonishing thing about the concept was the constant
discussion with me about girls who had already lost their
virginity, most to nonentities and some to school mates and
yet numerous to sugar daddies in order to equip themselves
with life’s necessities. "Mummy, I now regret,
I never knew that a call of this nature would ever emerge
in this wicked country". Another asked me if I could
come up with a concept that would focus on bringing to book
those who had lured them into the acts for monetary gains,
but I declined to embark on such a venture. I told her to
let the sleeping dog lie and that she should join us to nurture
this programme into a worthwhile concept in this nation.
However, I was dismayed to read in the Sunday Sun that we
examined 50 girls and 42 passed and that I was elated to give
the certificates and other things including the gold jewelleries
to 42, abandoning the others. For the benefit of your numerous
readers, we only tested 43 girls and we found them whole.
The late comers were turned back because we were already done
with the exercise before they arrived.
The timing was 10 a.m. on 24th January, 2007 at the Ekemode
Memorial Hospital and Women’s Infirmary but 17 girls
rushed in by 5 p.m after Ambassador Segun Olusola had decorated
them with Garlands on which Nigerian Virgin Girls was boldly
written. But we gave them food and drinks including some flowers.
Nobody tested was turned down or found already deflowered.
Many people arrived Lagos with their daughters a day prior
to the event. People came from Akwa Ibom, Port Harcourt, Onitsha,
Owerri, Abuja, Benin City, Lagos Metropolis and Badagry et
cetera, at cetera.
Your publication wrote: 'The issue of virginity should be
an indoor talk and not a public matter and that it ought to
be between parents and their children or between two sincere
close friends’
You also raised the question: ‘If any of those girls
publicly declared virgin was raped and defiled the next day’.
I appreciae the argument. However, I owe it a duty to provide
the following facts to the reading public.
One, parents have since forgotten about this unique virginity
test issue, the only thing they discuss with passion is education;
Many of them equip their daughters with condoms, yes, many
of them confessed to me.
Two, sincere friends are now rare, jealousy is the in-thing
now, even among the people we are now addressing, especially
on the virginity issue. For your information, numerous virtuous
girls have lost their friends because of their chastity. One
can scarcely find friends discussing vagina or sex abstinence.
Topic for discussion these days are about how much money they
are making from promiscuity, the amount they get from their
sugar daddies and the big boys in town. In fact, if anyone
of them should own up to her abstinency, she automatically
becomes a laughing stock.
Three, as for rape, a girl who has been able to scale through
all temptations to the extent of getting a certificate of
virtue, would also escape rape in case the occasion arises.
You know why? The God who saw her through in the first place
is unchangeable and omnipresent. He would always be there
to protect her so much that the people operating through the
kingdom of darkness will never be able to overcome her. And
that is why parents should cultivate the habit of daily fervently
praying for their children and also make them embrace the
teachings of God and practising them. A child of God will
never be raped.
• Madam Adunni Adediran is unofficial mother of the
virgin girls.
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