| He whispered his proposal
into my ears
By Bisi Olaleye and Nike Ajayi
Tuesday,
November 6, 2007
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Mr
& Mrs Deji Oguntomole
Photo: Sun News Publishing |
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When a mutual friend introduced Deji Oguntomole, a banker,
to Sade Omisakin, an accountant, marriage was far from Sade’s
mind. However, with time, the simplicity and gentility of
Deji dislodged a cord in her heart and her centre refused
to hold until Deji became a permanent part of her life.
Recently, the duo became man and wife before God and an impressive
congregation in Ilorin, Kwara State. Daily Sun was a part
of the guests at the wedding and the elated couple took time
off to share their experience.
Deji
Attraction
That is a big question. Everything about her attracted me.
She is God-fearing, always lending herself to use in favour
of other people. In a nutshell, a consummate, selfless individual.
In fact, the way she relates with me, it is like she lives
her life to satisfy me. These attributes pale to second position,
when you now consider her natural total beauty. She is very
beautiful, in and out.
Meeting
All I can say is that it was God. I met her through a very
good friend of mine. His name is Segun Osaolu. And somehow,
somewhere, we met and to God be the glory, we are able to
hold onto what we truly shared. Since then, God has really
been good to us. We appreciate Him more.
Proposal
After I had made up my mind that she is the one, one day,
we had an outing and when we came back, I put on a special
music and while we were listening to the music, I just sat
beside her and asked her quietly, "how about making this
a lifelong commitment?" At first, she pretended as if
she did not hear, but after another whisper of the same question,
she turned to lock her gaze with mine, it was like we were
looking through each other into the soul and spontaneously
both of us embraced and she said, "yes, oh, yes."
And that was it.
Parental reaction
Her parents don’t live here in Lagos, so we had to travel
down to Ilorin where they reside. I went in company of my
friends and when we got there, I asked my friends to go in
first. When my father-in-law saw us, he looked at me and asked
us to make ourselves comfortable. He did not ask any question
the first day. We showered, ate and went to bed. The next
morning, he invited us to the living room and called members
of the family and asked me to introduce myself to him in the
presence of everyone. At first, that threw me off balance
because the reception was rather unusual. It was like facing
a panel of interview in an official set up. However, they
turned out not to be bad people. In fact, they are really
wonderful. He actually assimilated me into his family as soon
as we apprised him of our mission. And ever since, any time
I travel to Ilorin, I feel like I am going to my second home.
I really appreciate them. Thank God now, two has become one.
I am a member of their family now and she is also a member
of my own. We give God all the glory.
Pre-marital sex?
During one of our counselling programmes before the wedding,
the reverend of the church where we had our wedding asked
us if she was pregnant and I looked at him and said my hands
were clean. There was nothing like that. We actually never
talked about it. It was rather tempting but we were able to
manage without it. We thank God for every blessing.
Sade speaks
Attraction
Simplicity. The ability to keep his head while all others
around him are losing theirs. He has that cool exterior like
nothing is big enough to upset his equilibrium. He is always
cool and collected. These are evidences of deep-seated courage
to face whatever life brings and it is so reassuring. It is
an attitude that has stabilising effect on my own naturally
anxious disposition. He is very caring and understanding.
Meeting him
Let me say I met him through the grace of God. We met through
one of his friends, Segun Osaolu. Even though we didn’t
deliberately set out to become lovers, God somehow intervened
and we are able to express a special feeling for each other.
We shared the feelings and God blessed our intention. Today,
through the unmerited grace of God, we are man and wife.
Reaction to his proposal
He didn’t speak out that day. He whispered it, and it
just filtered into my hearing. The first time, it was like
I was not hearing properly. So, I thought, Oh no, it couldn’t
be. This can’t be him. But the second time, he spoke
more clearly and it was like God whispered into my heart that
he was the bone from whose chest I was fashioned out. Well,
I accepted him and we started getting along until God actually
proclaimed us husband and wife through the church today. Everything
is just God and to Him belongs all praise and glory. |
