| Her father’s profession
scared me at first. He sells coffins
By BISI OLALEYE
Tuesday,
February 19, 2008
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and Mrs Feyita
Photo: Sun News Publishing |
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The love story between George Feyita, a banker and Omobolanle,
a make -up professional, marketing communication specialist
in London and eldest daughter of Tunji Okusanya, MIC boss
can only be described as that of Cinderella, who only had
to lose a pair of slippers to win Prince Charming.
In his case, he didn’t pick a slipper but the contact
he got through a friend was all he needed to get through to
her. According to him, what began as mere friendship on phone
led to the solemnization of marriage between them.
In an exchange with Daily Sun, shortly after
their society wedding in Lagos, both narrated how they met,
though Bolanle did most of the talking.
Wife
A mutual friend introduced us in June 2004. At the time she
mentioned him, George was on holiday and the friend wanted
me to check him out first and see if I liked him. For some
reason, that never happened but after his return, he got in
touch and we started talking, through SMS and e-mails on a
daily basis.
We eventually met at a kind of blind date and our friendship
deepened.
Before we physically met, I had thought George seemed an interesting
character, but when we did meet, I wasn't sure if I was attracted
to him. He never gave up though, and he always engaged my
mind. For me, that was the key to my heart and I couldn't
help falling for him and today, the rest is history.
Proposal
It was special and romantic... George booked a short break
for us to Barcelona, he'd been talking about it casually for
months and one day he just announced, 'we are going to Barcelona
in a few weeks!'
I asked jokingly what the urgency was all about and whether
it was because he was going to propose. He kept saying...
"just kill the thought because I plan for my proposal
to be a surprise''. So I thought ok, this is obviously not
a surprise and he even went further to say that even if he
wanted to do it, the fact that I had thought about it, it
would no longer be a surprise and he wouldn't do it then.
When we got to Barcelona, we went sight seeing (I wanted to
go shopping for shoes initially) instead we eventually got
to the famous Park Guell. It was quite a romantic garden and
all I was thinking was "let's finish here quickly, before
shoe shops close!"
I later discovered that George was not in a rush to leave
and we continued walking in the garden like other tourists.
We eventually reached an area where a man was playing the
violin with Jazz music, and he (George) likes jazz music as
well as violin, so we stopped to listen to the guy play. It
was quite romantic and we listened to this guy for like 30
minutes.
The moment
As soon as he started with Michael Bolton's track 'Everything
I do, I do for you' I saw he went down on one knee and for
one second I thought he was joking. I was surprised and realized
later what was happening when I saw a box in his hands and
I got on my knees immediately in shock. I could not believe
what was happening.
And he popped the question, " Will you marry me?"
I stayed there speechless for a couple of minutes and he kept
repeating the question till I said yes!
Parental acceptance
This was a bit challenging... initially my mum did not want
to hear anything, she had always wanted me to come home with
a Kolade or Femi. When she heard George was from Delta State,
her expression was Delta? It didn't help that he was from
Warri, all she said was ‘Ko le possible’! (It
can’t be possible). She was not keen on discussing it
and I think she was hoping the relationship was not too serious
though she had met George a few times. She said it was nothing
personal with George but confessed that she didn't know any
inter-ethnic marriages that have worked well, my father on
the other hand, kept silent on the matter but within him,
he supported mummy.
George called them fairly frequently and continued to, and
they both gave him the impression that they didn’t have
any issues with where he came from. This dragged on for a
while but we kept praying about it and believed that with
God, all things are possible.
I believe the Holy Spirit touched their hearts, and they accepted
George. He is actually their new son now and they communicate
with him all the time and have a fantastic relationship. His
parents accepted me immediately they saw me and they had no
issues with me coming from a different area, they are a warm
and accommodating people.
Husband’s response
Attraction
I got attracted to Bolanle because we were able to connect
as friends. I saw her more as a pal and we got on really well.
She is a very simple girl and down to earth and for me, that
is very important. She never let things get to her head and
that made all the difference for me. This might sound absurd
but as soon as I started chatting with Bolanle, I had a spiritual
feeling she was the woman for me though we hadn't physically
met.... There was something about her every time we spoke
and with time it became clearer. She is indeed a blessing
to me, very quick to let things pass even when she gets upset.
She takes life easy and just takes things one day at a time....
I'm glad I found her because she makes all the difference
in my world.
Initially, I was quite surprised, maybe shocked to know that
her father is a funeral undertaker. I remember that I kept
asking her "is that what he does full time?"But
I got over it with time and it wasn’t so much of a challenge
getting her to say yes to my proposal.
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