If a man denies your pregnancy?
By Samod Biobaku,
Ashamu Adegbola, Rita Okoye, Nene Bassey and Onyinye Ejeke
Sunday, July 30, 2006
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Bunmi Awolusi
How can a man deny a pregnancy that he
is responsible for? As far as I am concerned, any man that does that is not only
a coward, he is callous. If it happens to me, I will abort that pregnancy.
I
personally detest abortion. Who knows what the child would become in future. I’ll
keep the baby as long as I’m sure that he’s the one responsible. On
the other hand, if he’s going to deny the pregnancy, then he should have
a good reason. If he has proof that I’m a flirt, his decision might be justified.
That’s why I pity girls who just meet a guy and are in bed with
him two or three days after. They’re the ones who fall into such problems.
If I know the guy’s parents, I’ll take my case to them. I’m
sure they’ll be considerate enough to work out a solution. The fact remains
that any man that is not bold enough to father a child should not have an erection.
If he must, he should find somewhere to plunge it, not in a woman’s body. Toyosi
Martins
It is not even possible. My boyfriend can’t deny my pregnancy.
What makes me so confident? Of course, I can’t be that careless. Prevention,
we all know, is better that cure. How would it happen when I have taken all the
precautions that I ought to? I’ve said enough, you must leave me now. Bukky
Ayodele
A guy to deny my pregnancy? Not after hundreds of people have seen
us together. Well, I pray it doesn’t happen to me. But, if it does, I won’t
let the guy go free. Only a wicked man can do such a thing. I’m always precautious
though. In my own case, my guy loves me very much and I feel the same way about
him. So there is no reason why he’d deny me. Bolatito Ajanaku
What
you are saying is instructive o! Do you know that it has never crossed my mind
that such a thing can happen? Maybe this is an eye-opener.
Come to think of
it, if a man does it to me, abortion might be necessary in the circumstance. Of
course, nobody is above mistake. On the other hand, if our both families approved
of our relationship, I’ll keep it. I am certain that his family would encourage
me to have the baby. Ladies, we must be careful before we make silly mistakes. Aishat
Sano
I wouldn’t abort it. I’ll have the baby. I know that one day,
no matter how long, he’ll come asking after the child. Even if he gives
me money to abort it, I won’t. No one knows what the child is destined to
become. I hereby warn ladies against abortions. If he denies the pregnancy, I’ll
let him go but I’ll keep the baby. Grace Ngozi
As for me, I’ll
let him go. It shows he’s very irresponsible. I’ll learn what I can
from the experience and move on with my life. I will never abort. I know it won’t
be easy to raise the child but abortion is not an option. My parents will be there
to support me. Nike Olawole
I’ll keep the baby and trust in God
to help me with the upkeep. Abortion? Never! I won’t even contemplate it
because I’m a Christian and it’s against the ways of the Lord to murder
an unborn child. Ronke Oloye
I’ll have the baby then I’ll
go for a blood test to convince him that the pregnancy was his. If he still refuses,
I’ll go on to raise the child on my own. For him to deny my pregnancy, something
must be wrong somewhere. He could be having financial problems or so. I’m
sure that some day he’ll come to his senses and return to claim the baby.
Abortion is dangerous. What if I don’t get pregnant again? I’ve seen
a similar situation where the guy returned to claim the child. Moreover, who knows
what the bay will become. Yetunde Moshood
I’ll keep the pregnancy
because abortion is not good at all. What if the child becomes very great? Who
knows? Abortion is very bad. If he decides to come back for the baby years later,
he’s welcome. He’ll be accepted as the father of the child as he always
would be. But at that initial stage, it would be very traumatic. Ijeoma
Okereke
I wouldn’t do anything dangerous, although I will feel bad. First
of all, I will confront him and talk to him one on one. If he were still reluctant
about the pregnancy, I wouldn’t do anything stupid to myself. I will just
leave him. I truth that one day he would definitely come back. Susan Akpovoka
Well,
that won’t be the first time. Life is not a bed of roses. If it happens
to me, I will not abort it. God forbid! The truth is that these days, people hardly
abort pregnancies. It’s old fashioned. The worst-case scenario is that I’ll
keep the child and leave him with his conscience. When he comes back to his senses,
I hope that he’ll search for the child. Omobolanle Oyinbojuni
Me?
The Bible says, “Everything that happens is for a reason.” If he denies
the pregnancy, God knows the reason for everything that happens to every man.
I will keep the baby. It is against my religion to procure abortion of any kind.
I will keep the baby because he or she might turn out to be a great person in
future. Toyin Ramon
Of course, I would be sad, but I’ll take care
of myself. Yes, my parents would be disappointed too, but the consolation would
be that everyone makes mistakes. Again, that I didn’t take the risk of attempting
to have an abortion. I will commit everything to God to take care of. Sunday
Grace
I will keep the child. I can’t abort the pregnancy o. Abortion
is very risky because I might lose my life in the process. I would accept my fate
as having made a mistake, but I’ll be consoled by the fact that the child
might be a blessing to me in the future. Yes, my parents would be disappointed
but they can’t possibly reverse the situation. Cynthia Adah
Certainly
I would feel embarrassed. But what I would not consent to is to have an abortion.
Even if he suggests it, I would resist. Rather, I will call on God to judge. Oluseye
Fayomi
Initially, I will feel very bad. Of course, it would amount to a disgrace
to me as a woman. In the circumstance, I would take the situation to God to take
control. I will not terminate it and, at the same time I would not force myself
on him, just because he denied my pregnancy. Yinka Akingboye
If I find
myself in that kind of mess, I will automatically become a prayer warrior. The
whole essence would be for him to accept the pregnancy through the will of the
almighty. God forbid, I will not terminate the pregnancy because someday he may
change his mind and come for the child. But before I leave him, I will try and
locate his family to inform them and to sample their opinion on it. Roseline
Ntoku-Thank God
It will depend on his financial situation at the time. Yes,
because some people tend to deny if they are facing some form of financial stress.
In that case, I will simply keep the pregnancy in the hope that one day we could
reconcile and find a common ground. I will not abort it because it can cost me
my life. When the child grows up, he or she would locate their father. Definitely!
It happened to someone I know, but today they are happily married. Rose
Okonma
Very simple, terminate the pregnancy! Why should I have a baby and then
begin a dirty paternity tussle in court? Any man that denies a woman’s pregnancy
does not love her one bit. Come to think of it, it is even during pregnancy that
a woman needs a man’s love most. Any man that denies his woman affection
at that material time is simply wicked. He is not deserving of a woman’s
trust. Adegoke Kemi
Things like this do happen but it depends on the
type of relationship the woman had with the man before pregnancy came about. First
and foremost, I am aware that if he has no confidence in me, he is likely to deny.
On the other hand, if I have been faithful to him, and it is not in doubt, chances
are that he’d not deny me.
However, if such a thing happens to me,
I will not have an abortion. I will keep the baby. Yes, that is the most sensible
thing to do. The way these things work, if he is truly the one responsible for
my pregnancy, he would one day come to claim the child because as they say, blood
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