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Seun Ajala
Ha! I think that should automatically mark the end of our relationship. Well, we must consider certain key things. One of such would be to find out how far he’s gone with having sex with both guys and babes. It’s a 70-30 thing. What I mean by this is that if I realise that he still has 70% chance of desisting from the act of sleeping with guys, I might be tempted to give him a helping hand towards stopping it.

Who knows-he might have been lured into it? To find out the truth, I’ll ask him some certain questions. The truth of the matter is that if I’m dating a bisexual, I would have known a long time ago. He would have slipped a couple of times. By slipping, I mean that I would have caught him more than once talking sexually about men. No matter how good he is at pretending, sooner or later, he would say or do something that would give him away. If for instance, he’s the kind of guy who talks a lot, he might get carried away and say something like, ‘Chai! See that guy’s lips’ or ‘Damn! That guy is thick.’ If I’m going to break up with him, it doesn’t have to be instantaneous because one has to be mature in dealing with such cases.

Wunmi Rotimi
I’m actually short of words, because your question is quite stunning. Well, if I find out that I’m really in love with the guy in question, I’ll sit him down and have a serious talk with him. If I discovered that he’s sincerely willing to stop, I’m ready to stand by him till he has a total sexual reorientation. If on the other hand, I find out that he’s not too willing to put an end to having sex with men, I’ll ensure I drag him to a church. It’s essential to get such a man into the spiritual realm.

What if he’s the one God has ordained for me? If he’s the one for me, I’ll work seriously on him. Let me make something very clear. In life, we have to live with the choices we made. If at the end of the day, he’s still not willing to change after all I have done, I would be left with no other choice than to let go. Let’s be very practical here. Take a good look at me. Do you think any sane man can actually have me and still want to have sex with a man? Only insanity can do that. The Devil is fond of borrowing men sometimes, it is left for the woman involved to decide whether she wants to fight for what belongs to her or just let go.

Busola Elebute
If I find out that my sweetheart also has sex with guys, I’ll break up with him. Damn! I don’t think I can tolerate such a thing. The first thing that would come to my mind, which I would ensure I tell him, is the fact that I don’t like it, but he might not stop. Such a guy would love hanging out with guys, especially the ones that share his sexual preference. I don’t see any sane reason why I should continue to date such a guy. It’s just crazy no matter how you look at it.

Rotimi Davies
Well, it depends on where such a guy grew up and the kind of things he was exposed to as a child and as a teenager. It’s most likely that he must have lived in a boarding house at one point of his life, because that’s where such crazy things usually stem from, especially in either all boys or all girls school. Those who go to either of these schools have a very high propensity to become gay, lesbians and even bisexuals. If I discovered that my sweetheart is bisexual, I’ll sit him down and have a very serious talk with him. I’ll ask him how he feels when we’re making love. I would want to know if he feels what we do or not. I’ll also ensure that he sees a therapist. It’s my responsibility to let him know how the female body works. I’ll also teach him how to be a man and how to accommodate the female body. We’re all adults. I’ll be very open to him about himself. As long as I’m sure that he’s ready to change for the better I’ll still stick to him. I’ll make sure he has full access to my body and make him touch certain parts of my body to know if he feels certain vibes. I’m very positive he will change, except he doesn’t love me. I’m sure he cannot marry a man, so he will change. I’ll also ensure that we go to church.

Rosemary Nwajere
If I catch him red handed making love to a guy, I’ll be shocked and I might have to quit the relationship. It’s no use staying with such a guy. I would rather quit. Who knows when he started doing it? For a guy like that, there’s a very tendency that he’s already addicted to having sex with guys and babes as well. There’s no point in asking him any yeye question because he’s most likely already addicted and would find it extremely hard to put an end to it. If I really love him, the most I can do for him is to advice him to change for the better, but I’ll still break up with him. I’ll still quit even if he admits, because it is very likely that he’ll still creep back into doing it when I’m not around him.

Bukky Giwa
I would be very surprised, but it’s mandatory that I sit him down and find out why he does what he does. I’ll take my time to study him and if I’m convinced that he’s ready to change, I won’t break up with him. If however, he’s not ready to change, I’ll break up with him. As long as I’m convinced that I’m in love with him, I’ll give him the benefit of doubt. So based on trust and his word that he won’t go back to sleeping with guys, I’ll continue with him and be ready to accommodate him till he drops the bad habit.

Naomi Orutu
Look, I won’t mince words on this question at all. If I discover that the man I love also has a thing for men too, I’ll be shocked on a massive level. I’ll have to quit the relationship. I have to do this, because the truth is that, I can’t be dating a guy who is sleeping around with guys. The fact that he’s cheating on me is bad but the reality of the fact that he’s doing it with a man makes it worse. That’s the most painful part. What would people say when they get to know? Any guy who does that would most likely be addicted to it. Breaking up might just be the right thing to do. I would advice him to break up the habit but I’ll still break up with him. He might change but loving him is a very dangerous thing to do. What if he says he would quit and doesn’t do so? How can I stay in love with such a guy? If I really love this guy and I find it difficult to break up with him, I’ll be with him for love sake, but I’ll be very careful because he might do it with my own brother.

Awhangasi Naume Anita
There’s this passage in the Bible that says, God does not want the death of a sinner rather than the sinner to repent. The first thing I would do is to talk to him. I’ll advice him and let him realise the bad side of it and the destruction he would face at the end of the day by doing something liken that. As for the relationship, I don’t think I can continue with it because definitely, I would be scared. There’s no need for me to date a guy who has sex with both males and females. How can I remain in love with a man who has sex with guys? My family must never get wind of something as terrible as that. It sounds crazy. Whatever happens, we still have to be very close because, I still have to talk to him and ensure that he drops the habit. I also have to change him for the better. I owe him that much because I’m sure God would blame me for that. As for the relationship, that’s the end. I can’t displease myself to please him. It’s the love I have for him that would make me work on him till he stops it.

Mercy Iriogbo
Look, it’s abnormal. Love does not go to that extent. How can I love a guy who has sex with guys? That kind of man should be left to carry his own cross. When he gets tired of doing it with men, he’ll change but as for me, the relationship is over. There’s nothing I can do about it. He is on his own. For how long will I continue to deceive myself?