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Omolara Alawiye
No way! I can’t do something like that and I’m serious about it. I just can’t do it. He could be a secret admirer for crying out loud. Telling him such a thing could pump a couple of wrong ideas into his head. If what we’re talking about here is just mere attraction and nothing more, then the possibility, though, slim exists. I could tell him I like one or two things about him.

Let me confess to you, there’s someone like that in my department but I find it hard to bring myself to tell him. So far, I haven’t told him. I don’t want a situation where after telling him, he begins to feel like a superstar. I don’t want him to start having funny ideas. It’s not a bad thing to tell him but the bad part of it is that you can’t read his mind. I don’t know the kind of interpretation he might begin to read into such a thing.

Ada Obishili
Yes, I can. Why should I be scared? If he’s someone who is worth being admired, then there’s absolutely nothing to be scared about. Fear is the last thing I would think about. Moreover, I’m not the type to develop cold feet at times like that. If I like him, I’ll let him know straight away. To be candid, I’ve done it before. When I felt the time was right, I just walked up to him and told him. It’s much easier to do if the lecturer in question is the simple kind of person.

If the lecturer is the kind of man who has established himself as a friendly person, I don’t see any reason why I shouldn’t tell him. I’ll just let him know but I don’t think I can go all the way by dating him. For God’s sake, he’s my lecturer for crying out loud. I personally don’t think it’s a good idea to date one’s lecturer. I don’t do it.

Damilola Adekoya
I can’t tell him. The most I can do is to be friendly with him. I also have to give him the respect he deserves being my lecturer. Telling him would make me look like one of those cheap girls who scurry after lecturers in return for favours. I can’t bring myself that low. I don’t want a situation where it would look as if I have something sexual to offer the lecturer in question.

Olaotan Olayide
Never! If I do that, he’ll start feeling too important and he might even go as far as seeing me as a girl he could just trample upon. He might be tempted to use that as an undue advantage over me.

Yetunde Orungbamila
I can’t go that far. Ah! My lecturer? There’s no way I would allow such a thing happen. It would give him too much leverage and undue opportunity. What if he had been nurturing emotional feelings for me? Telling him that makes it very easy for him to begin to say all sorts of things. It’s not a bad thing to tell your lecturer that you like certain things about him but I can’t do it.

Anuoluwapo Oguntuashe
No! I’m a woman and I have prestige. I have my image to protect. Therefore, I can’t do that. I’m a public relations person and I know that outside Nigeria, it is acceptable in some quarters but here, it’s unacceptable. If you cannot do in Rome as the Romans do, then you should be ready to face the music.

Pelumi Adekunbi
I wouldn’t do that because it clearly shows that I don’t have any sense of morality. I can’t stoop that low. If I go to that length, I’m giving him a direct license to use and dump me. This is Africa. The man can go ahead and do that but it’s unacceptable for the feminine gender to engage in such bold acts. It’s not palatable for a woman to tell a man she likes him. You can be friendly with him. That’s ok. The truth of the matter is that even if you have emotional feelings for him, you should wait until he makes the expected move.

Seun Ajala
I can’t because I just can’t do it. Look, I see a lot of good looking guys on a daily basis, so why my lecturer? It’s much better if the man involved is my neigbour or someone else. I have this natural phobia for establishing romance with lecturers or getting too intimate with them. Any woman who makes the first move on her lecturer is treading on dangerous grounds. I’ve never done it before.

Atinuke Ayobamidele
I can but it’s not in an emotional way that would make him start having negative thoughts. I’ll make it simple and straight forward. I’ll just tell him what exactly I admire about him. If it’s the way he lectures, I’ll make it clear but it’s not right for a student to walk up to the lecturer and tell him that you admire him. Doing that leaves room for immorality.