How American dream turns
nightmare for immigrants
By BENNY OMOADE
Monday, December 10, 2007
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New York City. September 7, 2002. A light breeze welcomed
you to the United States this beautiful afternoon in autumn.
The weather was perfect and the sun’s warmth on your
brow, refreshing. Having spent over 14 hours journeying from
Lagos through Amsterdam to New York, you had thought you would
be considerably exhausted on arrival. But here, at the back
seat of the Chevrolet Impala conveying you from the J.F. Kennedy
Airport, there was no sign of fatigue.
No feeling of a jetlag. From inside the car, you cast a deliberately
slow glance around. Everything your eyes could see was a glaring
testimonial of your arrival into a brand new world. Towering
mansions with the roofs virtually touching the sky, greeted
you from all sides. From left and right, big and beautiful
automobiles sped past on well paved, neatly demarcated roads.
You heaved a deep sigh, relieved at last that your trying
times in Nigeria were over. For the fourth time that afternoon,
you fished your passport from the breast pocket of your shirt
and checked the document again. Impressed in bold, red letters
on the document, the words, TEMPORARY EVIDENCE OF LAWFUL ADMISSION
FOR PERMANENT RESIDENCE. EMPLOYMENT AUTHORIZED, reassured
you that a brand new day has dawned. You remembered how it
all started two years earlier and you muttered a silent appreciation
to God that it had all ended well.
But for most immigrants, does living in America ultimately
translate into that fantasized life of perpetual bliss? Hardly,
says Rotimi Aromolaran, a Nigerian security expert who has
lived in the United States for over a decade.
“When you first arrive in this country, you might think
you’ve come to a place like no other. But it might not
be too long before the scales begin to fall off your eyes.
Although there are many Nigerian professionals that have risen
to the top in their careers, a good many of our people are
still in the struggling category and would remain there forever.
There is nothing they can do about it. That is why one is
always saddened when one sees some of these people with great
potentials abandoning their career for an unknown future in
America. By the time you begin to search for a job and you
realize the kind of jobs that are available for people like
you, and you take into consideration the opportunities that
could be available for you back in your country, a lot of
people will admit to themselves that their coming to America
is nothing but a monumental mistake.”
Olusesan Ekisola, founding General Manager of Nigeria’s
first private radio station, Raypower F.M, who has lived in
America for more than ten years, couldn’t concur more.
“You know the regular Nigerian thinks that America is
God’s own country. So you think you will get here and
start picking dollar bills by the sidewalk. That is never
going to happen. The first time I came to the United States,
I was a guest of the American government.
The government actually paid me for travelling around the
country, touring big broadcasting channels. So I had thought
it was going to continue like that. But when I came back to
live here, I was on my own. Coming from Nigeria, with your
level in the industry, you expected to be given some treatment.
You thought all you had to do was call some people, then go
and take up a job in some respectable office. That never happened.
That is never going to happen.”
A stressful start
For many an immigrant, the path to ‘God’s own
country’ is not without a generous presence of thorns
and thistles. For you, that journey had actually commenced
two years earlier when you purchased the American Diversity
Visa Lottery form from an agency in Lagos, having been told
that the good luck of the agency could help you emerge one
of the lucky winners in the programme. For about a year after
purchasing the forms, no information was forthcoming.
Then one evening, a letter came in the mail, announcing that
you had emerged one of the provisional winners. You were told
that a set of forms would soon be mailed to you, inside which
would be instructions on what to do and what not to do.
Eight months later, a bigger package came in the mail. In
the package was a letter giving details of the processes leading
to your interview appointment at the American embassy in Lagos.
Also in the package were several forms to be filled and several
more to be taken around to several different places. There
were forms to be confirmed by the West Africa Examinations
Council (WAEC), the Nigeria Police, the National Population
Commission and many others. You were also required to undergo
all forms of tests at a specialist hospital in Lagos, among
other requirements. Having successfully concluded all that,
you were ready to face the tough guys at the embassy.
Your watch struck 6.25am as the commercial motorbike deposited
you near the makeshift waiting area opposite the Consulate
of the United States on Walter Carrington Crescent on Victoria
Island, Lagos. Even at that time of the day, the entire street
was as busy as Oshodi market on a typical afternoon, milling
with hundreds of mostly desperate men and women dying to savour
their own share of the famed American dream. A self-styled
prophet walked around, a large copy of the Bible in his hand,
praying for willing would-be interviewees for a fee. Some
others also preached the gospel, urging sinners to repent
and asking everyone to “sow some financial seeds”,
assuring that all who did would go home with their visas.
Sellers of sundry items also loitered around the place, making
brisk business from the visa-seekers.
A few minutes before 7 am, those seeking visas were asked
to form a line. But right from the gate, every Nigerian staff
of the embassy tried his best to heap as much humiliation
as possible on the applicants. A guard at the gate could order
you out of the line whenever he wanted, apparently to display
his own power. And once inside, you were at the mercy of any
staff that wanted to show off his powers on you. Every little
staff was like a god that must be worshipped. Failure to add
‘ma’ or ‘sir’ to your response to
a question could earn you a tongue-lash from an office assistant
in the embassy.
After three hours of enduring much insults and paying all
the non-refundable fees, it was eventually your turn to face
a visa officer, an American who was surprisingly courteous
and amiable, unlike his rude and hostile Nigerian subordinates.
After screening your documents, he asked that you return the
following day to pick up your visa.
Many others were, however, not that lucky. Many were those
who paraded the embassy for months, spending a fortune on
procuring several documents and eventually failing to get
the much prized visa.
Glimpse of a ‘paradise’
Your first few days in America could be fun-filled, especially
if your hosts could afford the time to take you to some fun
spots in town. And all over America, such places are never
in short supply. Those eye-popping sights, the wonderful food
and the thought that very soon, you would start earning the
almighty dollar would no doubt reinforce your conviction that
you’ve indeed arrived in the land of ultimate bliss.
As you continue to savour your new world, you would discover
that, in truth, America is a place where everything works.
Essential services and basic infrastructure like electricity,
good roads, good water, telephone, internet and the like,
which are almost a luxury in some other climes, are taken
for granted in the United States. Unless in an emergency,
the light hardly blinks, and, water would never cease to flow
from the taps. New roads are perpetually being constructed
even as old ones are resurfaced virtually every summer. Telephone
services are as efficient as you could imagine. Terminologies
such as busy network, ‘lines not responding’,
and the like which are a frequent refrain of the different
networks in Nigeria, are non-existent in the American vocabulary.
America might be preoccupied with many issues, but feeding
its citizens is certainly not one of them. Food is everywhere
and quite affordable, although how healthy most foods are
might be a topic for an intense debate among nutritionists.
Americans are a food-loving race, and it is not uncommon to
find people eating everywhere. That easily explains why one
out of every four Americans is believed to be suffering from
obesity.
The security situation is another area where the new visitor
will fall in love with the United States. Policemen are at
your beck and call at all times of the day. All you need do,
if you are in some trouble, is to dial the emergency number
911, and in the next moment, several siren-blowing police
cars will be racing to your house. And if you ever need emergency
medical service, a fleet of ambulances will be dispatched
to your doorstep as soon as you dial the emergency number.
Education in America as well as the health sector are also
first class, though these do not by any means come cheap.
But, not all that glitters…
“The saying, not all that glitters is gold is especially
true of this country,” Aromolaran told Daily
Sun in a recent chat in Minneapolis. “The truth
is that certain things are different from what you think they
are. But it might be too late for you before you realize your
mistake.”
He has a supporter in Laide Oyetunde, a former manager with
Wemabod Estate Limited, a real estate company in Lagos. According
to the Ejigbo, Osun State prince, if everyone was sufficiently
informed about the real life in America before they took the
flight to the JFK or any of the international airports across
the United States, a good number of would-be immigrants wouldn’t
have taken that plunge into an unknown destiny.
“If many people had known, they would have remained
in their comfort zone in Nigeria,” he told Daily
Sun at his home in Coon Rapids, Minnesota. “My
own case is a good example. As a licensed quantity surveyor,
I was already a manager in my company. I had a solid career
and opportunity for continuous growth in that field. But when
I got here, I had to start life afresh with a new career in
manufacturing. So, if many people had known that what they
thought of America was certainly different from the reality
on ground, there is no doubt that they would have stayed back
in their countries.”
Ekisola, now a real estate consultant in the United States,
explains why a lot of people are misinformed about the realities
in America.
“The reason why our people keep having these fantasies
about America is because the American government spends billions
of dollars to project their country as the ultimate paradise
on earth. But when you get here, you discover that what you’ve
been watching on your TV back home is not the real America.
Unfortunately, people here wouldn’t tell you the truth.
They let you discover that by yourself.”
Not everyone would buy such talk, however. For each day, across
many countries of the world, the number of those seeking to
migrate to ‘God’s own country’ and partake
of the American dream keeps rising. Great is the number of
people desperate to relocate to the ‘land of milk and
honey’, legally or otherwise.
Routes to the American dream
There are various legal means to immigrate to the United States.
The most common is the Diversity Visa Lottery Program which
ensures that about 55,000 people from different countries
legally relocate to that country every year. That is perhaps
the easiest and quickest way of legally relocating to the
United States. But there are other ways. An American citizen
may apply for his spouse or intended spouse living abroad,
and within a year, the couple might be legally living together
in the States. An American citizen may also apply for other
relatives living abroad. But for those, the dream of relocating
to the United States might take over a decade to realize.
The permanent legal residents, otherwise known as the green
card holders, can apply for their wives or husbands and kids
and other relatives to legally join them on a permanent basis
in America. The waiting period for the relatives of the green
card holder is, however, much longer than that of the American
citizen. Some who find their ways to the United States as
refugees and asylum seekers might also end up with the green
card and eventually become American citizens.
It doesn’t matter how the green card gets into your
hand. But as soon as you get the legal permit to live and
work in the United States, you can then begin to “live
the American dream”. That expression, especially to
many Nigerians desirous of savouring the American life, means
living large in extreme affluence while easily picking dollar
bills from American streets. A few weeks in that country would,
however, douse the initial optimism of the excited immigrant,
as he realizes, to his chagrin, that while living in the United
States could indeed be much better than in his native country,
it could equally be as frustrating and harsh as Minnesota
weather in the winter.
Landing a ‘good’ job
The first hurdle faced by the new immigrant, as he begins
to settle down in the United States is how to secure a ‘good’
job. There are those who get good jobs as soon as they land
in the States. Certain professionals may actually be recruited
from their countries by some well-established companies in
the United States. Others, by virtue of their education and
hard work, have been able to get to the pinnacle of their
careers, their land of birth notwithstanding. A lot of Nigerians
in the United States have been able to overcome all barriers
along their paths and today, made a name for themselves in
their chosen fields. Many would argue, however, that those
are an insignificant minority. In most cases, as soon as you
start job-hunting, you will discover that those academic certificates
you brought from your country as well as the vast experience
garnered over many years are hardly worth a penny.
A former manager in a popular Nigerian communications outfit
told Daily Sun his experience the first time
he tried getting a job in the United States.
“I saw the advert in a local newspaper that a marketing
company needed a manager. I applied and was invited for the
interview. After the interview, I was given the job. I had
thought that, as a manager, I would sit in an office and coordinate
activities. Unknown to me, the job actually entailed walking
round some neighbourhoods of New York selling kiddies’
toys. I took my leave as soon as I discovered that that was
the kind of job I was going to do.”
He was actually lucky. At that time, his wife and kids were
resident in Nigeria and he lived with a family where the only
bill he paid was on his cell phone. As a result, he could
afford the luxury of rejecting certain jobs. Many others,
who have to support their families as well as pay monthly
bills on rent, electricity, car insurance, water, house phone
and other utilities are left with little choice than to jump
at whatever menial jobs they could lay their hands on.
For the new immigrant, the easiest way to land a job is to
go through an employment agency. And there are thousands of
them across the states. After filling out an application,
and probably passing their test, they might send you to a
company they deem fit, as a temporary “temp” employee.
Eventually, some companies might decide to employ you permanently.
In most cases, a temp is treated just like an inconsequential
piece of junk. The company may decide to lay you off at will.
At times, some agencies may send you to companies that will
certainly draw some tears down your cheeks. In June, 2006,
the writer had an experience with one such agency in Edina,
Minnesota. The search for a job had driven one to the agency
one sunny afternoon and, after a quick interview during which
one was counselled to jettison one’s certificates for
now “in order to get a job as soon as possible”,
one had been given the address of a certain confectionery
somewhere in town. Asked what they did in the establishment,
the lady was non-committal. “It’s not a job you
can’t do,” she vaguely assured.
The following afternoon, you had driven to the address to
resume the mystery ‘job’. The first thing that
struck you as soon as you got near the building was the heat.
Once inside, you realized that the place was a large bakery.
After the bread had been baked, some huge machines would roll
the loaves around in a long, winding line for the next process.
As each loaf got down, a tray automatically fell underneath
it. But for some strange reason, a lot of those trays wouldn’t
drop down. And that, you were told, was why you were hired.
Scattered all over the floor were several large piles of empty
metal trays. Your job, said the white teenager who would be
your supervisor, would be to drag those piles of trays near
you, look out for any such loaf lacking a tray and quickly
throw an empty one underneath it. Maybe not much of a task
after all, you had reasoned.
No sooner had you begun that assignment, however, than you
realized that the job was no piece of cake. As soon as you
lifted up your head after throwing an empty tray on the line,
you would notice a long set of loaves racing down the line,
all lacking trays and you would have to throw empty trays
underneath each. Within minutes of starting the ‘job’,
your right hand was moving very rapidly, racing from tray-pile
to line to tray-pile to line at breakneck, ping-pong speed.
By the time you concluded that a successful career in tray-throwing
was certainly not in your future and decided to walk off the
‘job’ after a quarter-hour, you were already panting
like a man at the tail end of a marathon. An indescribable
ache that would remain with you for the next few weeks had
already begun pummeling your overlaboured right hand.
That action promptly earned the reporter a query from the
agency that sent him to the job. “For refusing to complete
the assignment,” the agency’s representative had
told him on telephone the following morning, “you will
never be able to work for us again.”
Pick your choice
In times past, an avalanche of menial jobs awaited you as
soon as you stepped on American soil. That has, however, changed
dramatically, no thanks to the migration of businesses from
the United States to other more business-friendly climates,
and the illegal presence of mostly Mexican aliens ever willing
to take up any job for the cheapest pay.
But it is not that there are no jobs waiting for you in your
new land. You might still not spend too many days idling about,
unless you are unnecessarily choosy. The most common jobs
you would likely find are those of security guards, nursing
aides in group homes where the invalid are cared for, manufacturing
hands at factories, and the like. And if you aren’t
able to endure the ‘humiliation’ in those vocations,
you could opt for a different career in taxi-driving, in the
construction industry, or as a cook or waiter in a restaurant.
You could also get a job in one of the many stores, stocking
items in big departmental establishments like Walmart, Walgreen,
Sears, Kohls, Target, Best Buy, and the like. There are also
large food stores like Cub Foods, Rainbow, Festival, etc.
But whatever you choose to do, you will need a good resume,
spiced with smartly concocted lies detailing that you’ve
had a vast experience in that vocation back in your country.
For, in the United States, not too many establishments would
offer you a job unless you could convince them that you’ve
had some experience in a similar calling.
Group homes to the rescue
These days in the United States, the most alluring vocation
for a good number of Nigerians is in the medical field, one
of the highest paying careers in the country. But since not
everyone possesses the required academic credentials to practice
as a medical doctor or as a registered nurse, the next option
for many is to seek a place on the lowest rung of the medical
industry’s ladder: As a nursing assistant in a group
home, a place where the physically or mentally incapacitated
are housed.
The nursing assistant is not required to have a string of
academic certificates. In most cases, he might not be required
to possess more than a GED, or the equivalent of a GCE here.
In the group home, all he’s required to do is simple,
especially if you don’t mind the muck and the cheerless
environment. His major responsibility is to take care of the
invalid patients who in most cases must have lost the use
of their limbs and sometimes, some of their senses.
He is to bathe them, cook and feed them, change their diapers
(since a lot would defecate and urinate in their panties),
take them sightseeing, as well as taking care of sundry other
odds and ends. For many new Nigerian immigrants seeking advice
on how to get a job, the first place he’s counseled
to try his luck at is the group home. And for many Nigerians
above 45 years, the most convenient place to work is the group
home. In fact, it is a common saying among many African immigrants
that those who mostly embrace that job in America are Nigerians
and Kenyans.
But it is not that Nigerians are imbued with a more caring
spirit than other immigrants, neither do they derive an incredible
pleasure from feeding, bathing for and changing the diapers
of full-grown but invalid white men and women. Although many
are those who pursue a career in the group home as a last
resort after their inability to get a more dignifying job,
there are those whose preference for that chore is fuelled
solely by lucre, the belief that the place is more financially
advantageous than other equally non-skilled jobs.
Working at the group home doesn’t really pay more than
labouring in the factories or at other places. But those who
ply that route insist that it is easier to make more money
over there by working in two or more homes at the same time
since the group home requires less physical labour than the
factory. The hours are also usually flexible, so you could
pick the hours you wish to work, although you must be willing
to live with the drab atmosphere and the occasional smacks
from a mentally deficient patient. And some Nigerian students
will tell you their love for the group home is purely educational.
The group home, such would swear, is a good place to study,
especially when the patients are asleep or relaxing.
Sour stories from the homes
Not every worker at the group home is lucky to have a sweet
tale, though. Many are those whose entire lives have been
shattered in America by a sad experience in a group home.
Since most dwellers of such homes are permanently frustrated
due to their mental retardation and inability to control their
limbs, urinary bladder and digestive track, they sometimes
vent their frustrations on their minders. There are several
stories of racial taunts and outright insults hurled at the
care-giver. There are also patients who deliberately empty
their bowels on those taking care of them. In all of these,
the nursing aide must restrain from exhibiting anger.
If he, however, displays the slightest shade of anger to the
patient, or if a patient reports him to his superior, the
nursing assistant might soon be out of work, and on his way
to more trouble. If he’s found guilty of such allegations,
he might lose not just his job, but also his licence to practice
that profession. There have also been cases when either an
inmate or a fellow worker accuses a care-giver of such strong
allegations as sexual or physical assault. And that is big
trouble.
In the state of Minnesota, one recent case is still causing
ripples within the Nigerian community. On November 15, this
year, a popular Nigerian living in the state, Mr Rilwan Alowonle,
was sentenced to a four-year jail term after he was found
guilty of raping a female co-worker in a group home. Alowonle,
a 51-year old chemical engineer who has lived in the United
States for about three decades, had reportedly worked for
the large American corporation, 3M for many years before he
was laid off. Like many other Nigerian experts who easily
turn to the group home for a new life after a downturn in
their careers, Alowonle reportedly sought and secured employment
in a group home as a nursing assistant. He reportedly worked
there for many years.
But that rape allegation against him by the Kenyan lady has
now ensured that his American dream would remain eternally
shattered. For when he eventually regains his freedom after
his jail term, Alowonle will most certainly be forced on to
the next available plane back to his motherland. Even if he’s
allowed to remain in the US, getting a reliable job would
be as difficult for him as drawing water from a dry well.
Bills, bills, and more bills
Money made in Lagos stays put in Lagos, so goes a popular
Yoruba saying. In America, the system is also designed for
you to plough whatever earnings you make back into the system.
In America, you could live life to the fullest. You may drive
an expensive, factory-fresh automobile, live in a big, tastefully-furnished
house and have almost everything you crave. Only on one condition:
You must be willing to pay the bills.
As soon as you start working, you will begin to receive unsolicited
offers from all quarters. How they got your name, address
and information that you are already working you might never
know. There will be telephone calls and letters in the mail
urging you to own your own personal house. There will be mail
making you incredible credit offers. With some credit, you
may buy cars, furniture and other items on loan, and start
making monthly payments on them. Buying a house in the United
States is no big deal. All you need is a good credit, a job
and the ability to pay the mortgage and the interest on the
house once a month. The mortgage can even be stretched for
as many as thirty years.
However, it is not as easy as it sounds. While some people
seemingly find the payment of the mortgage on their houses
as well as their car loans and other bills an easy pie, most
people actually have to labour very hard to meet with all
the payment. Many are those who, in order to pay their bills,
have to work multiple jobs. For many people, the hours spent
inside their houses and their cute cars are very minimal,
for they just must keep working in order to survive and pay
their bills.
In America, a lot of immigrants have little time for any other
thing besides working. Many lack basic information about events
even within their localities. A lot of people could ill afford
to travel to their home countries, while taking a vacation
is a luxury many would willingly do without. It is a known
fact that those who travel to the US as visitors actually
know more places in the country than the actual residents.
Yet the immigrant doesn’t necessarily abhor taking a
vacation, neither does he loathe the pleasure of discovering
new places. But he must keep working to pay his bills.
Not much fun for the illegal
Across the United States are millions of people living in
the country illegally, many of them, Nigerians. But for such
undocumented visitors, living in America could be as harsh
and tempestuous as navigating the Atlantic on a paddle-propelled
wooden canoe.
Unknown to many people desperate to live in the United States,
the American system is designed to frustrate the illegal alien’s
every move. The illegal alien is unable to work unless he
uses someone else’s documents to secure employment.
And as soon as he’s caught, he’s forced onto the
next available flight home. Apart from that, many things ordinarily
taken for granted by the lawful resident, like securing a
driver’s licence, having a social security number, opening
a bank account, securing accommodation, gaining admission
into a school, and such others would be an impossible task
for the illegal alien.
To get the necessary documents, especially the permanent resident
card otherwise known as the green card, many are the afflictions
faced by the illegal alien. For the Nigerians who have a nickname
for virtually everything in that country, the green card is
also known as ‘Ewekoro’, which roughly translates
in Yoruba, “securing the leaf (green card) is usually
a bitter experience”.
The easiest path for that alien is to get married to an American
citizen. But this does not immediately guarantee an easy green
card. First, he has to scale the hurdles of a tough interview
during which he needs to convince the immigration officials,
(known as ejire among the Yoruba community) that his marriage
is not just to secure a lawful residence in the United States.
Following a successful interview, if he’s that lucky,
he would receive a temporary green card in the mail after
a few weeks.
That card, which would enable him to look for a job, get a
social security card and apply for a driver’s licence,
would remain valid for two years. If all goes well, and he
is still married to his American wife at the expiration of
the two-year temporary resident permit, he is then issued
the real green card which will be valid for ten years and
renewable thereafter. Three years after having the permanent
legal resident permit, he may apply for American citizenship,
so long as he is still married to that spouse.
Very easy? Not quite. As soon as he marries his ‘heartthrob’,
who in most cases would not suspect that her spouse’s
declaration of love is actually a desperate means of securing
the elusive green card, the new husband is perpetually monitored
by immigration officials. Over the years, having confirmed
that most so-called marriages between illegal aliens and American
citizens have more to do with green card than love, the American
authorities have come to regard such unions more critically.
“These days, they monitor your every move,” said
James, a Nigerian who works in a mechanical assembly factory
in Madison, Wisconsin. The 32-year old man, who pleaded against
adding his surname, said from his experience, securing the
elusive green card is not always a palatable experience even
with your marriage to an American. “During the interview,
they ask you questions, somehow very intimate questions that
might eventually reveal your true intentions.
I know those who have failed the interview just because the
answers given by either of the couple to questions asked by
the immigration official differed from the ones given by the
other. For instance, a question like, ‘Do you guys keep
your clothes in a single closet?’ might generate a yes
from the husband, and a no from the wife. That is enough reason
to deny the guy. Or at best, he may be asked to come back
some other time.”
James had visited the United States in 2003 and like many
others before him, had decided to remain in the country. Before
leaving Nigeria, the then newly married man had a good job
in a bank where he was doing relatively well as an assistant
manager. His company had dispatched him to undergo a two-month
training in Chicago, Illinois that summer, with the assurance
of an automatic elevation at the end of the training. The
course over, he was cajoled by a few friends in the United
States that life in America was the best that could ever happen
to him. He was assured that he would make more money in the
States than in Nigeria.
He fell for their words and soon faxed a resignation letter
to his employers. It took him just three weeks to realize
that he had made the biggest mistake of his life. Having lost
his job in Nigeria, he was left with no option than to ‘do
as they do here.’ Now married to an African-American
woman six years older than him, with a sixteen-month-old baby
between them, James confessed his situation is as dicey as
ever. According to him, the news of his American marriage
and the birth of his daughter would break his wife’s
heart in Nigeria. “That is one fact I don’t intend
telling her until I’ve sorted myself out of this mess.
How am I supposed to tell her that I have a daughter here
when she is yet to have a baby?” he wondered.
Asked if he had become more prosperous since coming to the
States, his smile was bitter. “How can I make more money
now working in a factory here? Don’t forget I still
have to take care of my responsibilities in Nigeria as well
as here. I have to take care of my wife here as well as her
three other kids. She has refused to work, and yet I have
to continue to endure the pain if I want to get the authentic
green card. That is the only consolation I will have for all
the years I have wasted in this country”.
Shocks and more
A lot of shocks also await the new immigrant as he settles
down in his new abode. In most African societies, the man
is the head of the house, while the children must take instructions
from their parents. In America, the man and the woman share
the same spot in the home hierarchical chart, but it is no
secret that the system has an unhidden bias for the woman.
In the case of an assault or even a mere argument, the man
might be barred from venturing near his home, although he
must not default in paying the rent or the mortgage. These
have contributed in no small measure to the collapse of several
homes among many African immigrants.
“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the
rod of correction shall drive it far from him,” says
the Bible in the Book of Proverbs. In Africa, this Bible passage
is religiously adhered to, even by the heathen. But in America,
following the dictate of the verse will earn you a long term
in prison. Here, it is a crime to beat your kid; it matters
not if it is with a cane or an open palm. And whenever you
complete your jail term, you might likely be banned from having
anything to do with the kids in future.
Such ‘strange’ laws are not just for humans. The
new immigrant will also discover that cruelty towards animals
is as much a crime as cruelty to a human. In many states,
there is a hunting season during which you could go into the
forest and kill some categories of animals. At other times,
however, you must not deliberately kill animals. And in case
you run a deer or any other animal over with your car, you
must make an instant report to the police. Otherwise, that
action could earn you a term in prison.
For the would-be immigrant, Ekisola has a word: “If
you must live in America, dump your pride at the Murtala Mohammed
Airport before you take your flight. And please, go get a
lot of perseverance.
“Before you can settle down here and be living from
hand to mouth, you need at least three years. Then before
you can be reckoned with in terms of money, you must have
spent like eight fruitful years during which you must know
what you are doing. If you don’t know what you are doing,
then your sentence will be longer. And if you think you are
very smart and you want to take the short cut, you will end
up in jail. What the authorities here have is time. They give
you plenty of time. But they will eventually get you,”
he told Daily Sun.
So is the American system that hostile to the new immigrant?
“Not to everybody,” says Oyetunde. “If you
are a new school leaver or graduate in Nigeria, and for you,
the likelihood of a good job in the near future is so remote,
or you have become so frustrated with the system in Nigeria
that you don’t mind doing anything for survival, America
would be a good place for you. But if you are a professional
like myself, and you are doing relatively well in your field,
I will advise that you stay in Nigeria where you will be appreciated.”
And does Ekisola share that view? “To the professional,
I will just say, stay at home”, he says. “People
are not likely to take my advice. They will say this man is
selfish. I have a nephew who was trying to come here. Before
he came, I went to Nigeria to meet him. I told him, everything
you’ve been seeing on the TV, it’s not going to
happen. He didn’t believe me. When he got here, he expected
the dollar bills to start flying. He was shocked. So if you
have a good career back home and an opportunity to advance,
my advice is, don’t abandon all that for the unknown.
Please, stay home.”
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