When it comes to love, dating and relationships, many Nigerian men can’t handle rejection. They can’t stand a woman saying no to them. This lack of emotional maturity has played out many times that it is now seen as normal for these men to resort to name calling and slut shaming women who reject their love advances.

You guys need to grow up. A woman has the right to reject a man she doesn’t want to be with. There’s no written law anywhere that a woman must accept your advances or declarations of love. If she’s not interested in you, accept it and move on.

After all, there are many women in the world. Some women somewhere will accept you for who you are. You don’t need to keep crying like a spoilt child who was denied chocolate because a woman said no to you. She has her reasons, you have to respect that.

This issue of men calling out women who reject their advances on social media and calling them hungry bitches expose their lack of home training and respect for the female gender. Even if you were not taught to treat women with respect, you can teach yourself. Real men don’t insult women who reject them.

Recently, a young man with this entitlement mentality that a woman must say yes to him took to Twitter to insult a lady who went on a date with him but refused to go into a relationship with him. He went on Twitter to show his classless behaviour. He called her a bitch. He said if she was hungry she would have told him she wanted food instead of spending his money and rejecting him later.

But he messed with the wrong girl. She was not his average Nigerian woman who would kiss every frog because she is desperate to be in a relationship. She was a confident, intelligent and classy woman. She didn’t insult him in return or tried to explain herself. She just calculated the amount of money the small boy spent on their date and sent back to him. She even told him to keep the change.

Only insecure men in boy’s bodies believe every woman must go out with them. They pride themselves on being the best thing that happened to women after ice cream. This is also because in this part of the world, women are told at every opportunity that men are scarce and they should manage anyone they see, even badly behaved men who lack scruples and respect for women.

But times are changing. Nigerian men need to learn how to treat women and handle rejection better without resorting to insults. When a woman says no to you, turns down your offer for a date or refuses to go into a relationship with you after going on a first date, deal with it calmly and move on. You don’t need to start throwing tantrums all over the place like a toddler who soiled his diapers. That’s not cool.

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The fact that you asked a woman out doesn’t mean you are entitled to her acceptance. Stop threatening her with eternal singlehood because she said no to you.  You might feel bad for being rejected, but what you can’t do is make it your life’s mission to get even with her. You don’t slut shame her, you are revealing your true self and that’s probably why she said no to you.

For the men who feel entitled to having any woman of their choice, a woman who rejects you doesn’t deserve your anger. You can knock on the door of her life, but it’s up to her who she allows in and if it’s not you, life goes on.

Men who fly into a rage when a woman says no to them need to wait until they are emotionally mature to handle relationships before they jump into another one. If you want to impress her, show her how you handle rejection by respecting her decision. You don’t keep trying to get her at all costs until you wear her down. For some women, no means no and not yes.

What these men don’t know is that getting upset when a woman rejects you isn’t exactly going to change her mind. You can whine, insult, intimidate and threaten all you want, but a confident woman who knows what she’s bringing to the table won’t bulge.

If she already walks away from you, you won’t make her change her impression of you by freaking out and getting angry. Do you think she’s going to hear you out anymore when you call her a bitch? No way, she will thank her ancestors for delivering her from a man like you.

When a woman rejects a man, it may not be about him or what he did wrong. It may be because she’s not over her last relationship or not ready to date soon or because she is still dealing with heartbreak that she doesn’t want to suffer another one. Don’t take it personal and start insulting her family. That’s classless. To assume she rejected you because she deems you unworthy is not only often inaccurate, but smacks of insecurity and self-pity; two characteristics that modern women are not interested in.

The funny thing about men who don’t handle rejection well is their ability to spoil market for their kind. If your over-reaction fills her with a heightened fear of men, then she will be less likely to open her heart to the next guy. So not only will she miss out on possible romance, but so will your fellow men whom she won’t even consider because of your attitude.

If you can’t handle rejection from women, how will you handle it elsewhere? If you can’t handle rejection when a woman says she’s not interested, how will you handle it when an employer says the same thing? Or when a bank says they won’t approve your loan? Do you start calling them names and insulting them? Why then do you think it is right to do so to a woman?