Every parent want their children to do well. They want their children to become great and lead happy and healthy lives. But sometimes, things don’t go as planned because some children are not as smart as their parents want them to be.
The way mothers interact with their children has a huge influence on how they develop and how smart they become. Allowing your children to be smart and preparing them for their path into the independent world is one of the greatest achievements you can have as a parent.
The overall key as a parent is to focus on the process rather than the intelligence and talent that a child possesses. The way you respond to your child through situations largely determine how they assess their range of experiences.
If you react in an indifferent or restrictive way, this could discourage your child from wanting to try new things and cause them to learn to be too cautious therefore, limiting their personal experiences.
Instead, encourage your child by asking open-ended questions creating, a space for them to think about actions and awareness of those around them. Smart kids are those that get the chance to see another point of view and develop their sense of awareness.
Kids pick up on all sorts of things, especially your own actions. Learning from adult behaviour is one of the major ways a child picks up habits and makes sense of the world. If your child sees you engaging in reading, writing, or anything creative, it will cause them to imitate you and become smarter in the process.
It’s also important to allow your children hear you talk about achievements from hard work. Focusing on intelligent achievements, both theirs and yours will give a clear signal that will create a fixed mindset and a fixed mindset can lead to a fragile and defensive child in the long-run. Instead, when you speak, emphasize praise for hard work and focus rather than too much on-the-end result.
Although parents have the natural tendency to protect their children from feeling upset, allowing your child to take risks and failing will teach them fundamental life skills from their early age. Without experiencing failure early on, a child can develop low self-esteem and get discouraged from creating and learning by themselves. Mothers, encourage your children to experience failure when they are small, the amount of fear they develop will lessen.
Teaching a child that failure is not actually a bad thing is a great life-skill that will allow them to make smart decisions and learn from life’s ups and downs. At the end of the day, children need to feel emotions to understand them and protecting your child from them will only stunt their ability to adapt and make sense of the world.