Dr. Adidi Uyo was a great communication teacher at the Mass Communication Department, University of Lagos. Uyo’s unique selling point as a teacher was his ability to create a synergy that leaves a long-lasting impression on his audience . His students knew he did not joke with the ‘sender and receiver’ model in communication. I have not forgotten Dr. Uyo’s deep facial expression while explaining the important role of the sender to the receiver because that is the only way they can achieve communication at the centre of equilibrium; thereby striking a balance.
Beyond the art of communication for academic study, naturally, God has created the man as the sender and the woman the receiver of the message in a relationship. Researches, discussions and stories have proved that most senders of messages are going through various challenges. Some of these have sent the sender into a vegetable network that hinders the receiver from attaining equipoise. Once this situation is established, it can rattle the sender, receiver and the relationship will be put at jeopardy.
But then, it is not the end of the world. Other illnesses can rattle people, but they still survive them. The sender should not die in silence and shame while hiding himself. An honest, polite, confession and discussion with his beau will go a long way to achieving a super result. In their discussion, the need to seek for the attention of a medical expert to get expert instructions, information and medication will definitely provide the solution and the network will bounce back again.
The sender may have ran into difficulty as a result of careless lifestyle, expired drugs, or some other conditions that contributed to turn him into a vegetable state that he cannot jog around the receiver again.
When a receiver gets her fair share of the message, accordingly she will be happy. And the challenged sender can now breathe fresh air as they agree to an open communication.
As a built sender that God has made you, why not take the bull by the horn and speak out; not just speaking, but telling the truth. Discuss with your receiver who would not expose your secret. If you are sending a message and it is bouncing back either on your phone or e-mail; do you keep on sending it and watch it continuously bounce back? No, you must re-strategize and position well. It is a note of warning to receivers who are chatter boxes to spare their senders from razor-laden tongues. The moment a sender is ridiculed with his vegetable state; his ego is finished and he can go to any length to fight back. Receivers do not say you were not warned.
Having said that, a man cannot claim he does not know the reason for his vegetable state which is causing unannounced friction during sending passé in the home; except nature has made it to be so. Banking on ego, strong financial status, being a hunk and most intelligent cannot solve the problem of a weak sender unless it is addressed. Remember that every organ of the body has its function; the eye was not created for breathing or eating, but for visual purposes. So also does the sender work hand-in-hand with the receiver and a perfect communication is achieved. By the time a challenging sender is hidden, covered up, cook up stories around it and holds the receiver by hoax, both wallow in shame and things will surely fall apart. Poor bedroom sender performance is the reason most women wake up worked-up and sigh all day.
Please note that achieving a sender and receiver balance does not mean there will not be fruits to manage the situation. Fruits must surely come forth as far as healthy tears from the sender drops into a healthy and ready receiving pod, something great happens instantly and that will be the fruit. But that is not the analysis here.
With the fruits springing forth, it has made some senders scape goats because Africans by their tradition and culture are not in for sender-receiver-communicative-balance, but once pregnancy occurs, both have become the cynosure of all eyes. They receive congratulatory messages and accolades not knowing the sender was lost in transmission, but managed to wet the ground for the receiver. It is only the receiver who can testify if the sender was a performer.
Importantly, there are some senders who could go on a shopping-spree, but will not produce fruit. It is a big challenge. Some would have sent messages over the years with several tested receivers, yet nothing happens even as a hunk or one as handsome as Eddie Murphy. A crawling sender can produce sets of twins and there will be jubilation in town. Both ways need a medical consultation.
Again, it is crucial for us to know that good communications strategy is one of the strongest weapons of a winning couple. How often one communicates in one’s relationship determines the mileage one achieves. The communicative type of couple flow with actions, responsibilities and have activities run smoothly within and around them normally. It is not rocket science, but because they possess the power of communication which can heal all wounds.
Dear Mr. Sender, when a woman puts in her trust, love and best to make sure your message bounces back; do not take it for granted and begin to run from pillar to post to test-run the power of the sender. Do not forget she has wet her pillows thinking of what to do before she got you rescued. The best you can do is to open up and tell the truth and at this stage be a responsible sender.
How worrisome it was when a sister and her husband were in the wilderness believing God for their own child. Mr. Sender apparently knew he was the problem and was hiding it from her waiting receiver; and instead of addressing the issue, he showered his receiver with enormous love, gifts, foreign trips and all that money could buy, but the receiver was not happy because she needed her sender badly. She complained bitterly and help did not come from her sender. She changed her breaking network and looked for the newest-in-town handy network which was her driver. The new sender drove as well as he could and both made necessary arrangement and relocated abroad.
Had it been the original sender opened up to address the issue together, he would not have lost his beau.
Significantly, when some families descend on a wife who is waiting on the Lord for conception, it should not be because they do not know the condition of their brother’s sender. It is not in their place to find out if his sender is functioning or not. It is an extremely difficult situation to discuss and communicate with everybody. So many shy away from such discussion and it destroys their relationship the more.
Another encounter has exposed a man who drove his wife out because of fruitlessness. And he welcomed another receiver and nothing happened for years. The third and fourth came on board, yet nothing happened. It was the fourth who ran away and revealed he was the worst type of sender. Two of those receivers tried other senders and were happy they did.
Today, those who threaten other receivers for conception should learn from the surprises of 2019 elections. Your son or brother might not have a stronghold of his sender and will definitely lose election during communication. Therefore, tread with caution because you never can tell.