Have you ever met or seen a domineering woman? She creates hell for the man in her life. I have seen a lot of domineering women who reduced their husbands to mere errand boys who dare not speak up when they are barking, screaming or yelling at whoever including him.
These women careless if they are in public, they disgrace and talk down on their men. It doesn’t matter if it’s in the presence of their children or strangers.
You find their men standing and almost shivering while shaking their heads in disbelief how their wives denigrate them publicly.
In some cases, these women get physical. They hit these men at the slightest provocation. It is even worse when they successfully manipulate the children to join them in beating and trash talking their husbands.
For these kinds of women, physical violence is the last and final stage of their domination as their husbands become subdued and afraid.
A controlling wife believes in tough love, she hardly shows emotions except that of anger, she mistakes being mean for being blunt. She’s bossy, authoritarian, confrontational and uncomfortable when things are not done her way.
She takes control of a relationship from the onset. She’s usually the first one to exhibit temper outburst, understanding her is hard and loving her is even way harder. She’s easily offended and raises her voice above others be it one on one or in a group.
She dominates the sexual aspect of the relationship also. She dictates when and how they have sex, she can insist on no kissing, getting a head but will never give him a blow job even when he requests for it.
She insists on the sex position she likes best, most times once she climaxes, that’s the end of sex because she pushes him off her body. She would most times withhold sex for no reason; sex is one of her instruments of control.
She makes her own decisions, and that of the family. She also starts making the man’s decisions until she drowns his voice. She keeps tab on his every actions including how he relates with his parents and siblings. She’s always right. She reverses the role where she dominates, and the man submits.
These types of women are insecure, sick, crazy and downright narcissistic. In time of sorrow or the loss of a loved one, extremely dominant women are unable to grieve because they see life through their own bizarre mindset, which over time made them cold, hardened and ghetto-like.
Domineering women are ‘intimate terrorists’, meaning that they are verbally and physically violent towards their partners and these involve the use of threats, intimidation and violence.
Unfortunately, some men still remain in such marriages where they have lost their voices and identity and you wonder why any man would choose to remain in such a toxic marriage. Is it Stockholm syndrome, fear of divorce and starting all over again or fear of what the society would say that is holding him back?
Once you notice your woman is domineering, don’t give her fire for fire, just give her some space, talk less and stamp your feet down when necessary. Never leave your financial responsibilities to her, this is very important.
You should avoid being around her often, and never go into any business with her. Always be a step ahead even when it comes to academics or general knowledge, these women seem to respect men who have deeper insight on issues and in control.
If she withholds sex, don’t beg her. If she derives joy in talking down on you and how you are not man enough and she’s becoming too confrontational, don’t exchange words with her, take a walk. You can take a long walk for weeks or even months, but just stay away from her.
If she doesn’t reach out to you to apologize and make peace, then go ahead and rent another apartment for her, get back home and ask for temporary separation. She either gives you peace with well spelt terms and conditions or she moves into the rented house until you both sort out your differences.
If she prefers a divorce instead, she just added some years to your stay on earth, go ahead with the divorce, marriage is for the living and not for the dead. For better or for worse does not involve when your life is in danger.
You cannot be inhumanely treated and expected to remain in a relationship simply because a woman choses to behave like most African men towards their wives, yet expect them to remain.
You deserve happiness and if her happiness depends on emasculating and making you miserable, then you don’t need her.