Have you ever wondered what causes problems in your marriage or relationship? Could you be the reason your man is acting up?
This write up is not to bash women, neither is it aimed at exonerating men from issues plaguing marriages and relationships, it is rather aimed at pin pointing few of the little things ladies do that hurt their relationships directly or indirectly.
Your words and actions may be gradually driving your man into another woman’s arms, that’s if he’s not already in her arms and eating from her palm. You could be sending him to beer parlours to hang out for long hours because of your uncontrollable nagging, only to return home at ungodly hours drunk.
A home is not just a house, a home is a place one finds love, happiness, joy, peace, freedom. And this home can either be found in a long distance relationship or living in the same house.
When you truly love someone whether they are far or near, they become your heart’s heaven, but they don’t just become the love of your life by scaring you away. There is this inner peace that comes with their thought or even speaking with them because their words are carefully chosen, full of wisdom and understanding.
How much have you made your heart or your house a home for your man? Does he think of you and smile to himself, thanking God for the best gift from above, that he can’t wait to close from work to come home to you.
He can’t spend 24 hours without atleast calling to find out how you are doing. It doesnt matter if he’s at the war front, or how busy he is, whatever encounter he had, he can’t wait to call or come home to share some things with you.
He tells you the truth about his where about because he knows you won’t judge him. Oftentimes, ladies murder every iota of love and affection their men have for them because they suspect every call he makes or receives. They suspect all his text messages, every woman around him at work place, and even in church. Every woman he greets nicely is a suspect. It’s bad that some women suspect his female relations too.
The problem does not just stop at being suspicious but these women display their insecurity to the detriment of their relationships too. This is usually the beginning of relationship problems.
Some men go out of their way to learn a new skill on how to satisfy their woman in bed and they just kill his erection by asking while during action, ‘is this how she likes it? When did you learn this new style if you have not been practicing it with another woman?’
Nothing kills a man’s morale faster like a woman who doesn’t appreciate his efforts. It will take a lot for him to feel comfortable to make love to you like he would love to henceforth.
Naturally, a woman would smile and tell her man she’s been watching or reading up stuffs to enhance her sex skills when he asks her of her latest move in bed, because most men are usually excited when their women try new sexual positions in bed.
These men will hardly ask their women how they came about their latest sex moves while making love, they will enjoy the latest sex moves to the fullest, then ask after they have climaxed.
But the same cannot be said of most ladies who would ask immediately while doing the deed because they are burning with unconfirmed yet uncontrolled jealousy and anger. This often leads to the man withdrawing, with his sexual urge dying immediately.
Do not complain that your man hardly wants to have sex with you when you choose sex time to accuse him of cheating on you.
A good man will take the initiative to go on a survey, find a best spot to bring his wife/girlfriend, he gets to the house, picks her up to the location for shopping or to have a candle light dinner in a serene and very romantic setting, the next thing she says is ‘ how did you come about this place if you have not been bringing your other women here to eat or to shop?’
Often times, some of these women even go as far as staging a walk out on their men who stand there dumb founded wondering what they did wrong in the first place trying to make theirwoman happy. Why won’t you just shut-up and enjoy the treat?
This is how some women push their men away because they have wild imaginations that he’s cheating. Your man must not be cheating on you before he gives you a threat. He could be learning from other good couples on how to make you happy and you just wasted his efforts.
Never try to change a man, you will die trying. A man that loves you will change for you effortlessly. Be of good behaviour, pray for him and encourage him, but keep nagging out of your relationship.
Respect him, praise him, spoil him with gifts too, remind him you love him and forgive him when he apologises for hurting you.
Don’t always wait for him to be the one to call your number first. If you miss and wish to speak with him, go right ahead and call him. It’s not a competition.
Admire other couples but never compare him to them in whatever guise. Men hate comparison especially where they are lagging behind.
Whatever he shares with you in confidence, do not use it against him.That is how some women make their men shut down and start withholding informations from them.
Don’t use your tears to emotionally blackmail him whenever issues come up. Once he gets used to your unnecessary tears, he won’t be moved anymore by them.