The worst thing that can happen to a woman is to fall for the many lies married men tell. Married men can lie. Their lies can raise the dead. They lie without blinking, while looking at you in the eyes. They string you along for years and even decade if you are foolish enough to believe their sweet nothings.
For a long time, women have been falling preys to the lies married men tell them. These women who crave love, attention and affection open up their hearts to men who have nothing to offer them other than lies, sweet lies and more enduring lies.
Many single ladies have encountered these men on many social media platforms. They are tired of the many inbox messages they get from men who act like good husbands to their wives, but kill their wives with different ailments before their sex interests just because they want to enjoy a piece of flesh.
I wonder if the vagina they are craving for desperately like a child running after his favourite candy is different from the ones their wives possess. A vagina remains a vagina. There are different shapes and sizes, agreed. But the end product is still the same. It requires insert, pound, move your hips up and down, climax, see tiny stars in the process and clean yourself. Is the release from having sex with side chics different from the release men have with their wives? Only men can answer this question.
I have listened to married women cry and lament over the slimy activities of their husbands who lie to single ladies, because they just want to insert, peruse and remove their tools from different oil rigs.
I know of a woman in Abuja whose husband lied to a group of women who participated in a cancer charity walk that his wife died of breast cancer and left three children in his care. He cried while narrating this story that these women were moved. He gained their sympathy, and some of the women who heard his story volunteered to take turns to check on his children from time to time.
Few months later, one of the women who took his number and volunteered to help him with his children ran into him in a supermarket and started asking after his children. Suddenly, a beautiful woman in her forties appeared and called him honey. She asked him if they were getting a particular brand of detergent. The man became fidgety. The two women exchanged pleasantries. It turned out that the woman who called him honey was his wife who had supposedly died of breast cancer. It turned out that madam was alive and kicking, but ‘Honey’ had already killed her with his words.
Like a pack of cards, this married man’s lies came crashing in a single moment. He couldn’t look the two women in the face. It was the moment of truth that exposed his lie in his quest for free vagina. His wife was alive, healthy and loving as usual, but this man kept telling people that she died of cancer just to taste free vagina. It’s a shame.
Another woman who just couldn’t handle all the stress her husband’s infidelity was causing her banned him from their matrimonial bed. She said she wouldn’t be endangering her life for a man who goes on Facebook to lie that she has ‘died’. The man is notorious for wooing and sleeping with women, ugly ones for that matter and he does that without protection.
The last message she stumbled on in his phone broke the camel’s back. Her husband who has been cheating with different women all through their marriage was inviting a Kenyan girl he met on Facebook to Nigeria for sex.
She confronted him and he tried to deny it as usual, but her mind was made up. She is moving on with her life. She stressed that her children needed her alive and well, so no more sex for her husband until he goes for HIV test.
A young lady met a church going, tongue blasting and bible quoting man who said he was interested in marrying her last year. He kept flirting with her using the gospel and preaching on every opportunity.
She thought she had landed a God-fearing man, but it’s all format to get free sex. He would disappear and reappear without concrete explanations. He was always explaining himself. She sensed something was not right but decided to ignore her instincts all the same.
The irony was that this devoted brother kept requesting for her nude pictures. When she refused, he threatened to call off their relationship, which was of course, leading to the altar in his schemes.
One day, she visited him unannounced only to see pictures of his wife and children. She was devastated because she was planning a marriage with another woman’s husband. His wife has been outside the country for some months, so he decided to extend the sex ministry to unsuspecting single females in church.
The heartbreak that accompanies finding out that the man who is doting on you is married cannot be explained. Some ladies have wasted five to 10 years waiting for these lying, cheating married men to divorce their wives. Many have been driven to insanity by the sweet lies of these unconscionable men.
For a long time, women have been trying to explain why men cheat and lie to justify their actions too. They wonder why the men who they share their beds, bodies and hearts with lie about their marital responsibilities just to taste different oil rigs and sometimes, smelly ones.
The reason men lie about their marriages while hunting for external honey pots is that ladies are notorious for believing the many lies that married men tell them. They take every word like it’s the gospel Jesus preached before He went to heaven, only to be disappointed in the end.
When a man says, ‘’I wish I had met you first so that I would marry you instead of my witch of a wife, he’s lying.’’ That’s an old format. It is even going out of fashion. I don’t know why ladies keep falling for this line. It’s outdated. They should try a new line.
Chances are that he would keep draining your body of vital fluids while keeping his wife too. You are the one who will lose out in the end if you continue believing his lies about leaving his wife, because she doesn’t love him the way you do. You are a long thing, young lady.
If a man tells you all the time that his wife is an evil witch that maltreats him and you keep forming good girl who will give him what his wife is not giving him, you are gullible. He’s preying on your need for companionship and love. Keep your distance so that you would clearly see good men waiting to build something with you.
Many times, these lying men tell young ladies that they are in the middle of a divorce, but that it is being stalled because their wives want to remain married to them. This lie is what is it is, a big lie.
You will be shocked to know that the ones who even claim that they are not sleeping with their wives are catching night duty action behind the scenes. You then wonder how their wives end up pregnant and deliver babies while they keep lying to their mistresses that their marriages are over. Who impregnated these wives, a ghost?
We don’t sleep together and haven’t for a long time is not the truth. If you have a married boyfriend, he is just playing with you for as long as the thrill of new sex can last. When he gets tired of your hot place, he will dump you and move on to another victim, sorry woman.
As a young lady, if you keep putting your life on hold because of a married man, you are wasting your time. That means you are accepting disrespect. No one deserves to be toyed with by unrepentant liars and serial cheats. The longer you stay, the more you are hurting yourself and short changing your future.
These types of men who lie don’t have real love to give. They just want to get into your honey pot to feel accomplished. It’s a game to them. You are the prey and they are the hunters. They don’t care about how things will affect you, or about your future.
Men who lie about their wives to you don’t have your best interests at heart. They will only confuse you with money and material things. They don’t mean well because they don’t know what’s good for you.
At the end of the day, you would have wasted productive years of your life playing around with a man building his life with his wife and children.
Young lady, build yourself up, love yourself, and consider having a healthy, honest and above board relationship. It’s what you deserve. God loves you, so you need to love yourself enough to see your worth. Don’t allow lying married men ruin your life.
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The tragedy of Eden certainly cannot be changed, especially by people like you who cannot distinguish between love and fantasy. Whatever anti-society group you represent, guide your thoughts rationally. Your column is demonic. Stop deceiving women with your column. – Ben, Lagos
I really appreciate your words on love. Our society seems to have lost the true meaning of love. People now go into relationships for just what they would gain. But your words painted a beautiful picture of what love is and should be among couples. Thank you for being real. Keep it up for my sake. – Daniel, Lagos
I always admire your bluntness in dealing with relationships. Keep it up. There are not many of you left in this world, people who say the truth regardless of what other people think or believe. You are blessed. – Peter Okeke, Nnewi
Do you think you are in America? You cannot change the African tradition. Love the way you portrayed it is alien to our culture. Stop promoting fallacy. Stop deceiving young ladies with your feminist movement. Love is nothing, but a lie. Love does not exist. – Ikenna, Onitsha
This is true explanation of love for those who don’t know what love means. Your article is educating and thrilling. Thank you. – Valentine, Lagos
Dear Kate, your write up today is a must read for all singles and married. I always anticipate your column every Saturday. You are doing a great job. Just keep enlightening us about relationships. – Chinaza Ijeoma
I have just finished reading and reflecting on your catchy and interesting article. I commend you for your efforts. I think you have successfully entertained your readers with perfect love which does not exist. I don’t think you took into considerations, the environmental factors and realities of love in different nations. Europe is not and cannot be Africa. They generally remain many miles apart in arts and science of love. Save your feminist inclination that to a reasonable extent dwarfed aims of your work. – Okwudili