My goodness, it’s not easy being a single girl these days. It is really hard. You know why?
Well, I have been told that one of the ways some girls can prove they love their boyfriends/lovers is that they provide nude images of themselves on demand or they get bombarded with videos of penis in their inbox. Are you surprised? You just wait a second! Going into a relationship these days is just tough. Some bachelors of our time are operating on another level and it’s either they see your nude images or no love.
The first time I heard about this tendency, I was shocked. I didn’t understand the motive behind it and the first thing I thought was, these guys must be raving mad.
But I was wrong. They are not mad, you know. They are just like every other bachelor out there. They are no strangers and you don’t have to look too hard, they are everywhere.
Initially, I assumed that if the guys were the only ones asking, they would keep asking till eternity, because I thought no Nigerian girl would give out her nude image to anyone.
Oh, you need to see how I was laughed at and someone even asked me if I was actually from this planet. Apparently, they must have thought I walked right out from a 1960 time machine.
What that means is that an exchange of nude images is now a way of life and it means nothing. Oh, good Lord, I must be getting old!
Why should you debase the woman you love? If you must look at the pictures of naked women, why not pick up anyone on a porn site? Do they want to keep these pictures or videos as collateral for breakup?
Of course, I got great answers to my questions. According to my source, one of the reasons is that generally men love to look at nude images of women and it becomes more special if that woman is that special someone. Really? Masturbating with your girlfriend’s nude image is now called love? So, your nude image in the hands of your boyfriend now translates to a special bond? Can someone help me define lust please?
Another reason is that, it is just fun and life shouldn’t be taken too seriously. So, throwing your nude images onto the internet is all about fun and a little adventure. When this fun gets you into trouble, I will be there to buy you white handkerchiefs from the aboki kiosk on my street.
Ostensibly, if a girlfriend or an aspiring girlfriend gives pictures or videos to a boyfriend, it shows trust and commitment. I was also told that this makes some of these guys relaxed so they don’t get jealous or angry. Hmmm, this generation is redefining what trust and commitment is abi? What makes you think, she is not sending such pictures to other men? Oh sorry, I over processed things in my head, nude images equal commitment. Shikena!
The lethal weapon? Please they made me swear that I won’t tell anyone this and please I am only telling you. This is for your ears only. I was told that if a guy’s girlfriend cheats on him, he can always use the pictures or videos as a weapon to repay the hurt. But, I think every dumb person should at least know that at some point your picture would be used to blackmail you.
Oh sure you’ re not bored yet. We have just exhausted the reasons for the guys, now let us all reason together again. We need to know why a young beautiful girl will agree to give her nude image or record a nude video for a guy.
Why not? “After all I love him and he feels the same way about me. My boyfriend wants them and enjoys them; they make him happy; it’s just a mere body and I trust him.” I have no words for you my dear, because I understand love is blind but don’t forget even Jesus Christ was betrayed by Judas.
In addition to this, I was told that when a boyfriend is looking at his babe’s nudes, that is less time he’d be looking at nudes of other women. Are you kidding? You think your nudes will stop him from checking the latest nude picture of Kim Kadarshian or whoever’s he fancies?
And lastly, the dumbest of reason of them all, “we’re never going to break up, but even if we do, he’s a great guy. So, I’m not worried that he’ll use them against me.”
Having gone through all these lame reasons both parties give for exchanging their nude images, I hope I have been able to convince you and not confuse you further.
So, should you give him your nudes when he asks? Should you send him your nudes in return if he bombards you with his penis videos?
Well, if you are 18 and above that is left for you to decide, because an exchange of nudes by two consenting adults is not criminal. But if it involves anybody below 18 it’s child pornography and if you insist on sending nudes, that’s your choice.
Every gorgeous girl who wants the truth from me should know that if your boyfriend or any guy you are in a relationship with is asking for your nudes, it’s a red flag.
Usually, he would ask you out like every other guy does. Of course, he is very smart and he will never tell you to bring your nude images outright.
A guy who does this will certainly be calling you baby in his first three messages and it is likely that he makes every text messages a sext. This means he is always steering your conversation towards sex. His idea about going on a date is thinly veiled with seductive euphemisms like “let’s go grab some pizzas and then bang!”
He is always trying to impress you with money and that he works long hours. Yea, I know that everybody likes to talk about himself or herself on a first date but he is always forcing the conversation into directions that will make him look like a super cool dude.
Then he will go for the joker by leading you on with a picture of his dick. Even if he has the prettiest dick you have ever seen, you should know that this is not a husband material. He is only a hit and run.
These crop of guys have so many tricks up their sleeves and they already know you have fallen head over heels over them. So, he plays the emotional love card, he will tell you to prove your love to him by sending him a picture of your breasts or V area.
Hello! Before you fall for that old trick you better go and get a brain reset. Let him go jump over Ikoyi Link Bridge to prove his love for you first and when he returns alive, you guys can start picking the pieces from there.
You still want to hit your keyboard, abi? How come your self esteem is so low beautiful? A guy whose background you are not even sure of is asking for what he should wait for? What he should get on a platter of gold? You just want to dish all that away because he pretends to love you?
Oh, you want to take the best shots of your breasts now and send to him, so he can feed his perversion?
Have you asked yourself how many other girls he asked for these same images?
Do you know the kind of sex orgy that is going on in his inbox?
Girlfriend, think! If you do not have a man in your life right now, that is not the end of the world. That smooth talking guy doesn’t deserve your body. Wait for the right guy. He will come very soon and he won’t be asking for your nude images. He will respect you and wait till you are ready.
You should know that we live in a global village now and the entire world is on the Internet. There are many revenge porn sites and our mobile phones can transmit pictures to anywhere in the world.
Also, he might lose the phone or laptops to people who will come blackmailing you afterwards. Your decision might cost you a whole lot. If your boyfriend snaps, he might just turn the photo you secretly took to get his affection to a tool of entertainment for everybody. Ask people who were victims of these perverse acts. They never recovered! Don’t become one of his many trophies!