Dear njigirl,
I met this nice looking girl in a club and she invited me to her home. When I asked for the address she would not text it instead told me to just come and she would give me directions on the phone.
I think this is weird but can’t put a finger on it. I will not go though. What do you think about her behavior?
ν Steve
Hello steve,
I think you just saw how a nightclub meeting could be gauging from her reaction; unserious at best. I suppose that your interaction was very exciting over alcohol and loud music and heaven knows what else. I also suppose that you were dancing to steamy and provocative music, which heightened your excitement leading to the exchange of numbers right?
Well it is morning time now and the cloud is clear and when you bring up the promise made regarding the visit, she refuses to send the address because on her end she no longer feels the heat from the previous day, do you understand? Could it be that or that she is afraid you might become a stalker? What if she has a man at home and she is merely being on guard making sure you don’t save the address on hopes of making the one time visit permanent?
So the bottom line is that these meetings in clubs are not meant to lead to any sensible relationships. The meetings are fun and exciting at the time but typically, right after that it is back to reality and the thrill is gone.
My advice to you is: if she insists on not revealing her address in writing, drop the idea and call it a day.
ν Dr. NJ