Some men lack the confidence to approach the women they fancy. Rather than come out directly to woo these women, they trick them into dating. It’s rather pathetic when men choose to trick a woman into going on a date with them rather than simply saying, “I want to take you out on a date.”
Some men admit they are not brave enough to face the consequences of putting their true desires forward because women can be unpredictable. Such men cannot live up being snubbed. Instead of facing it, they try to sneak their ways into being acceptance. It is frustrating for women because a lot of men who trick them into dates are men they could romantically be interested in.
The mere fact that they are not confident enough to ask for a date can be a huge turn-off for these women. Men who trick women into dates may ruin their chances of ever having a real date with them when the chips are down.
Below are stories of some women who have been tricked into having dates with men.
Obiageli: He deceived me claiming we had a work-related meeting
Sometime, I was working in an insurance firm. I was a team member of a marketing group at work and we held meetings to strategize on how to get customers to buy our insurance packages. One day, the team leader told me we had to meet somewhere to discuss how to get a big company and their staff to buy one of our packages.
He claimed it would be a group meeting and some staff members from the company would be there also. When I arrived at the venue of the meeting, I was the only one there. He told the meeting had been cancelled earlier but couldn’t reach me on phone. He said we could have lunch and suddenly, he started talking about us being an item. He complimented my beauty and intelligence. I was uncomfortable, but I tried to hide it. I thought I was coming for a meeting but suddenly, I was on a date which I didn’t bargain for.
Stella: The man who wanted to date me posed as a career ally
When I started work last year in one of the new generation banks, there was this guy who was ever willing to help me out. He delightfully put me through some things, helped me settle accounts and even took it upon himself to handle some of my transactions. I was grateful to him but when he started making passes at me, I felt uncomfortable. I didn’t want to hurt him because he had helped me when I started work but he was crossing his boundaries.
He was the guy who helped me on some projects or teamed up with me so that we both looked better to the boss. But I was taken aback when he suggested coming over at night so that we both can brainstorm ways to be put on the new, desirable project at work. But when I refused, he started acting funny. He went around telling people that I should be grateful he liked me and wanted to date me. The most annoying thing was that he didn’t mentioned anything about us dating, he was just being sly. I put an end to our work relationship. I don’t want to have anything to do with such a coward.
Sylvia: The man interested in me posed as a career mentor
As a young woman who knows what she wants in a relationship and from a man, I find it disgraceful that the man who pretends he is going to mentor me on my career wants to go out with me. He was my boss, and a well-respected authority in our industry but he couldn’t talk to the woman he wanted.
He pretended he was going to mentor me; gave me to big contacts and showed me the ropes, but he slyly tried to seduce me. I didn’t want to insult him, I just told him to leave me alone. Why is it so hard to tell a woman you desire that you both should start dating?
Oluwatosin: He claimed he needed my career help but he wanted something more
These men think women are so stupid to detect the many techniques they come up with just to date them. I found this technique offensive because, when someone comes to you and asks for your career help, you are genuinely flattered. You feel really good about your work. So, when it turns out the guy is only out to hit on you, and not seeking your career advice, you go from feeling honoured to feeling objectified. I didn’t find it funny. I am glad I caught his game early, if not, he would have had his way with me. I don’t date men who can’t state what they want from the start.
Sophia: He claimed he was seeking dating advice
Perhaps one of the slimmest tricks by men is pretending to want dating advice. A former neighbour tried this with me. We were having a party in the compound when he asked me for some time alone because he could really count on my advice on how to get another woman, but before I knew it, he was placing his hands on my knee. It was appalling to say the least. Men should learn how to woo women.
Omotayo: The man who wanted me posed as my friend
This guy has been my friend since we were in secondary school. I didn’t know he loved me. He had taken me out on several platonic hang-outs successfully before revealing his plan. We see movies together, go clubbing and hang out with friends when we had the time. But one night, he picked me up for dinner, an obviously romantic dinner at that and started putting the moves on me. He lured me into having a sense of safety before pouncing. I thrashed him thoroughly but we started dating a few months later. It was easy because we had been friends. He’s now my husband of two years.
Beatrice: He was looking for a shoulder to cry on but he wanted me
It’s not fair and it’s not right, but some men take advantage of a woman’s caring, nurturing nature when trying to date her. A business contact claimed he only needed a shoulder to cry on following a recent breakup coupled with the fact that business wasn’t moving well. I decided to be there for him because he helped me to build my business in the past. But I was surprised that in the middle of his most dramatic, tear-jerking speech about the event, he tried to kiss me.
When I asked him what he was trying to do, he said we should stop pretending but start dating because we love each other. I was confused and I told him to give me time to think about it. We ended up dating but it didn’t last. He did the same thing to someone else and when I found out, I broke up with him. I guess that’s how he gets women to date.
Anita: His ploy was offering to fix things in my new apartment
When I moved into a new apartment, this neighbour was all nice at first. He offered on several occasions to help me fix things in my apartment, I didn’t know it was a plan to date me. One day, he arrived with food and drinks while working but after fixing my problem, he just won’t leave. Of course, I couldn’t ask him to leave, because he fixed my lights. He told me I was beautiful and needed a man like him in my life. That was the last day I allowed him into my apartment before he raped me.