By Lawrence Enyoghasu
After watching Super Eagles of Nigeria defeat the Indomitable Lions of Cameroon in the recent World Cup qualifying match over two bottles of chilled Guinness stout at a fun joint located on Ewu Road, Oshodi area of Lagos, Uzochukwu grabbed the next available trophy, a fair skinned lady obviously in her 20s, and disappeared with her into one of the numerous rooms in the dingy building, through the narrow, poorly lit corridor. After a while, Uzochukwu returned with satisfaction written all over his face. He could not keep his excitement to himself and as such shared his experience with the call girl, named Angel with his friends seated at the table.
A different kind of pleasure
For men like Uzochukwu, nothing compares with a sexual session with sex hawkers, a thing detested and regarded as abominable by a large chunk of members of the public. The fair-skinned, tall Imo indigene told Saturday Sun that the satisfaction he derived from professional prostitutes was incomparable with what he got with his regular girlfriends.
According to the lanky man, his regular girlfriend often complains of pains and not enjoying sex with him, due to his large endowment and that this has killed his passion over the years.
“I only came alive when I travelled to Jigawa State and a friend took me to a place named Gidan Dubu close to the community. There was this local bar that smuggles girls into the town for men who desire extra satisfaction. I was told to try one of them. I did and my dead sexual urge resurrected,” he said.
Ever since, Uzochukwu has found no other passion besides spending his weekends or any available leisure time with sex hawkers. But he kept this a secret from his girlfriend.
“I know it is bad not to tell her how I feel and that I no longer enjoy sex with her. But, if I told her, she is going to hinge on the propaganda that relationship should not be about sex alone. But my point is that if one is going to be celibate, one can be, but I can’t keep up with having sex and not enjoying it,” the man said.
While Uzochukwu’s weird sexual preference may be merely to have a normal, satisfying sex, other patrons of brothels have what average members of the public would consider more bizarre reasons.
Such people derive pleasure from inflicting pain from their sexual partners, a thing they could not have from regular love relationships. This form of sex is popularly called Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, (BDSM) or Sadism & Masochism between consenting adults. It requires the use of leather and iron instrument, with which the sexual partner is tied up or put in an uncomfortable situation that could make her cry: These include bondage gear, bondage toys, including straitjackets, collars, and ropes. These tools are either to raise sexual desire of the participants or to avoid early ejaculation, sources said.
Saturday Sun learnt from one of the patrons of this new form of sexual habit, that it has become very popular and massively accepted, with some claiming that it is one of the safest ways of having sex as it comes with consensual agreement and proper planning.
Israel Temitayo, one of such people told Saturday Sun that it has more advantages than disadvantages.
“You can’t call your girlfriend that you want her to tie you up and make love to you. She would first scream for help, that is if she does not slap you first. We all have the desire to do it, it is just that some people could restrain themselves, while others give in. if you like you can try it,” he said.
Israel said regular girlfriends restrict their lovers to specific and routine styles during sex. He noted that although in their minds they too could desire some adventurous moves, they are afraid of the judgment their partners passed on them. “They (girls) might think if they do a particular style with a guy other than the regular missionary journey, their partner might think they are wayward and thus, not marriage material,” Israel explained.
Israel says he chose to add the use of handcuff to his sexual rituals, because “there is no pleasure without pain.”
He said further: “If you have taken your time to observe very well the concept of pleasure and pain, you will find out that it is at that point of pain that the pleasure is noticed. I was not abused when I was young. Rather I grew up to notice it, there was a point in my life that sex was nothing anymore, there was no more adventure in it. Then I travelled out and saw BDSM in a movie, and I had this acceptance towards it; I was titillated. I made sure I tried it in the United States before returning to Nigeria.”
There are several online sites that are currently serving both the male and female in Nigeria with various ranges of subscription, and charges between $1.00 per and $12.00 per day
For Obinna Ibe, a truck driver, married with two kids, patronising brothels is a way of relieving stress. He said he spends most of his time outside his matrimonial home and in order to avoid having multiple girlfriends and breeding children wherever he goes, he would rather pay for the service of a sex pro. That, he explained saved him from having to worry about the outcome.
“Of course I protect myself, I still love my wife and my children, but my body runs on blood and feeling. I am still an active man. If I don’t do it, how do you think I cope with pressure in my life? I am a 42-year-old man living in one room in a ‘face-me-I-face-you’ compound. Apart from the fact that these call girls attend to different men daily, they know how to please a man and relieve him of stress. There is something they do that makes them very different from the wives we all have at home.
“There are times like these that I would be home for some days, after the first day welcome sex, if I try to touch my wife, she would complain and ask if sex was food,” the man said.
Definitely, this is one issue, regular female lovers and wives need to learn a good lesson from, when pushed to refuse their spouses/partners sex.