Yes, a woman should moan and groan at will because she has the right to demand the role from her husband or lover. It is not a taboo for her to express her sensual desire when the need arises. Women should not break the chain of love intimacy out of pretense, innocence, naivety and church-mindedness. Since a woman can give her consent for a marriage to be consummated between her and a man, so also she should have the will power to demand for the natural feeling and satisfaction that God has designed for the two.
Now, women who deny themselves the warmth that leads men to browse their website are no saints rather they punishing themselves for no just cause. They try to subdue the feeling and become unnecessarily conservative when there is no need for that. If a woman did not take her romantic journey to its peak with her man, who then should she blame? This act is no prostitution, neither is it out of the blues. It comes as a result of obeying sensitivity, emotion, mood, excitement and sensation. When you initiate the action, your man will even respect the feeling and give it his best.
Again, all those pretenses, sexual mourning, and old-fashioned journey to happiness should no longer hold a woman down. Woman, go ye thee and conquer that timidity. Do not delay anymore. Do not kill the vibes because of your gender. When the need arises, go, match action with action; does the man pretend when he wants to go for oil rig exploration? No, he does not, rather he moves at a high frequency, removes every stumbling block, presses all necessary buttons and cruises above the sea level. He will keep hovering in the air until he lands like an aeroplane.
Similarly, a woman can start a new beginning with her man and gets to the Promised Land together, and then both will notice that life will be a lot easier. A man whose woman has grown above timidity, ignorance, backwardness and analogue-mindedness reaches out while urging him to show his colour would not want to disappoint his woman, even if he is not in the mood as miraculous sexual magic will naturally come upon him and at the end of the jolly ride, both will begin to experience a new life and live happily thereafter.
So many women think and expect only the men to press the motion-button while they wait, watch and pray. Meanwhile, she is dying in silence with every indication written on her face that she is in dire need of the oil-rig to be explored. Woman, why hide and die in silence out of pretense? Note that age is no barrier to sexual freedom. Probably, you think the man will consider you as one of those spoilt brat? Open your eyes and see the new morning.
Moreover, the preacher’s teaching during marriage counselling and courses simply say… ‘The Bible says do not refuse your husband” without letting the young-would-be wives know they should make the move and have access to their men when they need to. Only if the preachers know the healing powers associated with a woman who casts the first stone. The smile it brings all day, happiness, reconciliation, the high praise and shouts out of pet names, all come from the inner peaceful and satisfied mind. Do not shy away from the important role of the hidden organs. Some sisters shy away from this type of mind blowing game as if their spiritual father is there to catch them committing sin.
Very importantly, men who escalate embarrassing moments, thread with caution. When your woman expresses her sexual prowess, it is not for public discussion or ridicule or talks her down. Two should be naked even to their romance and finances. Do not take it for granted or use it as an abusive signal when you misunderstand yourselves.
It quickly comes to mind in one of our school friends’ gathering and catching up on old times sometime, and one of us said… “It was my birthday and my husband had planned a-close-friends-get-together on my behalf, ordered and paid for drinks, cakes and cravings that will make people comfortable for the night. He has publicly acknowledged my support as a great wife and companion and said some very nice things about me to my surprise. He really set the ball rolling while we danced to the admiration of our guests and it was a great night.
“I was imagining with high hopes the end result in the other room probably to get to the moon and back with my-boo who has heated up my polity. All my God-given points were willingly ready and waiting for my ward leader to carry out the mother of all campaigns since it was a night of surprise. Low and behold, nothing was coming from that end, not even a finger running on me. Not even a close wrap-up for the night, I did not get a proper stroke aside from the pecks during the bash; instead he lay blearily.
“Okay, let me not be too forward, probably, he was tired, but he should not be because he has an unfinished business with me. The next was this devilish snore that I do not know where it came from.
Is this for real or what? And my husband never touched me till daybreak, not even the early morning bell ringing. I was very sad, and never appreciated that birthday shindig. I did not get what I needed to wrap up the day. All sorts of things went through my mind. Did the party take the place of my personal love affair? Do the attendees know what I am going through right now? Are the other women experiencing the same with me?”
You are just speaking grammar. How heavenly would it have been if you had boldly started the smooch, but you did not because you are a law-abiding citizen who keeps to all rules and regulations, good or bad, and wallowed in pains with eyes focused to the ceiling.
Based on her experience, the bed couldn’t contain her; she fought with both the pillow and duvet, the air-conditioner was off and on because she was missing the best part of the show and couldn’t work out her salvation; then had to suffer all alone.
Remarkably, one man of God who is highly pious in the activities of the church told his wife to assist him to curtail his excesses on women.
The wife did not understand her hubby’s language because she would dish out the best meal as at when due, wash, clean and take good care of the family. But she scored zero in the other room and couldn’t tighten her nuts very well.
And the head of Usher was magnanimous and helped her out until the bubble burst, and the pastor confessed that he gets no turn around in the bedroom. His prayer warrior wife was surprised at who was helping her out; she did not understand what it means to create a lasting impression, run over him and be his lead-way. Whatever that happens in a private cosy bedroom is for the two hearts that beat as one.
Excitedly, nothing makes a woman more fulfilled when she knows she is on the same page with her man in everything, including the game of love. It literary means that a man must be treated right for that smooth ride to happen. A woman cannot be a nasty, unrepentant and abusive she-goat and expects her man to answer the clarion call when he is needed. The wake-up call starts in the daytime for both. The attention should not be focused on treating the woman right only; women should also reciprocate the gesture. The men also need that pampering touch, love and appreciation. They need the hugs, hear their thank you and live peacefully.
Excitingly, in as much as the campaign is to correct when there is need, admonish, teach and have a happy home at all times, I want to categorically state that sex organs and its roles have not been a reason for any accomplishment. The nature of sex is meant to be hidden and not for the public consultation. Words are used around it carefully to show how sacred it is. But the mind-set, attitude, character, power of feminism gives the woman an edge in her relationship.
Dear women, I charge you today to #balance for better# as the theme of the 2019 International Women’s Days (IWD) celebration states. Chart a new course, start a new beginning and request for intimacy because when Lagos calls, someone is ready to answer, if you call as a woman, make sure someone answers you.